My sister is a slut, what should I do

Brent · Post by **Brent** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 5:55 pm

here is the story

A few weeks ago my sister got her Tongue pierced and got a Tongue ring (installed toward the back of the tongue if that makes a difference, which I know what that means), against our mom's wishes. In fact, our mom didn't even know she did it. My sister turned 17 this past December, and thinks shes like 25 or somethin. It's illegal to get a Tongue ring here until you are 18. However my sister and an 18 year old friend of hers went to the mall and she used a fake ID, her friends, to get it done. The attendent obviously wasn't doing her job by looking over the ID enough to see that the picture on the ID didn't match my Sister's face, heh. So it's partly their fault for one. But anyways, my sister got it and of course didn't tell our mom, cause she would have said No.

However last week our mom found out she had gotten it. My sister was playing with it in her mouth and our mom saw it. She got in trouble, but not as severe as I thought it should have been, I think she got off pretty easy, however you could tell our mom was not happy and very dissapointed. Well, my sister STILL went behind her back on this and is continuing to wear it. She got a clear one that you can't see and still wears the Silver one at school. Basically totally going against our mother on this issue. My sister rationlizes it by saying well she is 'almost' 18 and then it will be Ok cause she can do anything she wants, heh. ANYWAYS

My delima is if I should tell my mom or not. My sister has the trust in me to tell me these things without telling our mom, which is cool, kinda. But then I loook at my mom and see how helpless she seems not even having a clue as to what is going on. I know a hell of a lot more about my sister and the things she says/does then my mom, it makes me feel bad for our own mom not to know, especially at this crucial (look i said Crucial, remember: SUBLIMINAL MESSAGE: BUY FROM CRUCIAL THROUGH SG) time in my sisters life, her havin only 1 year left in HS and all. So what do i do, tell our mom, or let it ride?

HalfLifer · Post by **HalfLifer** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 5:56 pm

Dont be a tattletale.

eddiec · Post by **eddiec** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:05 pm

As a Dad, I'd want to know. But I don't know how they relate with each other. Me and my 17 yr old can talk about anything, and have had some otherwise challenging discussions. But if Mom is just gonna wig and nothing will be accomplished, then you might just jeopordize your sister's trust, something you'll need if she gets into a real situation when she needs you. Bottom line, only you can make the call.

Silver · Post by **Silver** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:07 pm

Change your thread title. I was coming in here to find out about hot hot sister omgsex0r slut whooo hooo, and its about toungue rings?? Don't worry about it, your mom is not dumb, and will find out about it. She is 17 and allmost able to be out on her own, she is just trying to taste freedom. Again, your mom will find out about it, just leave it alone then wait for the fireworks when mom blows up about said toungue ring still being in. Should make for a great thread, video it and encode to divx then post it up.

We can use it for educational purpose's

End all be all, just leave it be.

BaLa · Post by **BaLa** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:11 pm

make a deal with your mom that somehow she finds it out maybe she picks her up at school or something...

make sure (ur sis) doesn't find out though...

YARDofSTUF · Post by **YARDofSTUF** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:14 pm

oral sex isnt selling all these tounge rings dude lol some ppl just like tham.

leave her alone. when ur 17 year old sister/daughter getting a tounge ring is the biggest problem u have, then ur doing pretty good lol

Silver · Post by **Silver** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:15 pm

Originally posted by BaLa
make a deal with your mom that somehow she finds it out maybe she picks her up at school or something...

make sure (ur sis) doesn't find out though...

Won't happen. Sis would find out, then be pissed at brent. Like eddie said, its between Brents mom and his sister. He should remain trustworthy unless it was more serious, like drugs or hangin out with voodoo preist's or something.

Brent · Post by **Brent** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:15 pm

Originally posted by YARDofSTUF
oral sex isnt selling all these tounge rings dude lol some ppl just like tham.

leave her alone. when ur 17 year old sister/daughter getting a tounge ring is the biggest problem u have, then ur doing pretty good lol

well, this isn't the biggest thing, heh

it's just 1 issue among many

YARDofSTUF · Post by **YARDofSTUF** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:16 pm

Originally posted by Brent

well, this isn't the biggest thing, heh

it's just 1 issue among many

nope not an issue, ok next aledged issue pls!!!!

Joe · Post by **Joe** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:27 pm

Brent... What was going through your mind at that age? I am almost certain it wasnt what mom and dad would do... ;-) She will grow out of that stage im sure... we all do... Atleast I think... Ill let you know in like 5 yrs.

Joint Chiefs of Staff · Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:31 pm

Originally posted by YARDofSTUF

nope not an issue, ok next aledged issue pls!!!!

Worst case ever for any parent. Daughter comes home and tells the parents she's pregnant.

A tongue piercing is not that bad. I had 3 earrings back in high school. Times have changed I guess.

TonyT · Post by **TonyT** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:35 pm

Talk to your sister and get her to come clean with your mom.
Be the mediator. Your sis is gona do what she wants anyway, unless she can see that going aginst her agreement with mom is actually not OK to do. Try to get her to see that she should at least respect your mom's decision until she's 18.

But I gotta tell ya dude, a young girl that is bold enough to get the tounge pierced twice, has many more things that mom doesn't know about, tucked away in her memory.

Norm · Post by **Norm** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 6:55 pm

There is nothing wrong with going against a parents wishes, or decisions, nothing at all. In doing so a child is demonstrating a desire to control there own life, and destiny. At the same time, if they can't do what the parents say when living under the parents roof, it's time for the child to take control of thier own life, and move out.
As your sister has said, she's almost 18, and when that day comes she can do what ever she likes. Kewl, but do it at your own place is what I would say to her. Under my roof, we do things my way. (ok, we do it the wifes way, just thought I'd pretend I was tough lol)
Up until the age of 18 parents must provide for a child, but after the age of 18 a parent providing for a child becomes a perk (not to be abused).
Never bite the hand that feeds you, and shelters you.
That's what we tell our kids.

The tongue ring isn't really the issue, it's the disrepect for authority, or in this case disrespect of her mother that is the issue. "Among other issues"
It must be tough for your mom Brent, being alone raising the 2 of you, and trying to be a good mother. I feel for her. Sometimes for the sake of the family unity rules get bent a little, but there has to be a line that everyone knows not to cross. A tongue ring doesn't sound like a line crosser to me, but that's me.
"Other issues" sounds like there is a problem somewhere that needs sorted out. Can't let things go to far or you reach a point of no return.

I would advise not breaking your sisters trust unless it is a situation that could become dangerous to her, and/or her health.

brembo · Post by **brembo** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:04 pm

Good lord Brent. At 17 I was a walking wrecking crew. If it seemed bad or something that MIGHT upset the rents, I was on it in a heartbeat.
Like Norm said, its part of growing up, and yer prolly kinda protective of yer sis, and good for you. Let her find out what life has to offer, best way to avoid being burned it to get singed once or twice, then yer less likely to repeat such silliness.

Now if the tounge ring is for enhanching...er....close proximity relationships, have a heart to heart with sis. Dig up some nice STD pics on the net and show em to her. Let her know yer worried and don't want anything bad to happen to her(AIDS, pregnancy, bizarre pus oozing disease, date rape...etc...). By lettin her know that yer worried, and not simply upset for her gettin let off the hook easily, she might take the advice to heart. But 17 y/o's are almost impossible to predict, but its worth a try. Treat her like an adult, seems thats what she wants.

BaLa · Post by **BaLa** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:11 pm

Originally posted by S1lv3r

Won't happen. Sis would find out, then be pissed at brent. Like eddie said, its between Brents mom and his sister. He should remain trustworthy unless it was more serious, like drugs or hangin out with voodoo preist's or something.

well I had made a similar deal with my parents once;
sis came home at 3am or something..and was supposed to be home @ 1..
(my parents were out of town)

made deal with my parents..

they said the neigbhors saw her come in late..
it worked...

Norm · Post by **Norm** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:17 pm

There seems to be one thing kids forget when they try pulling the wool over a parents eyes.

Parents have ALL been kids at one time, and have many years of experience as one.
Kids on the other hand have never been a parent, and have no experience at all being one.

You only THINK you fool your parents.
They just don't let on what they know sometimes

YARDofSTUF · Post by **YARDofSTUF** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:21 pm

Originally posted by Norm
There seems to be one thing kids forget when they try pulling the wool over a parents eyes.

Parents have ALL been kids at one time, and have many years of experience as one.
Kids on the other hand have never been a parent, and have no experience at all being one.

You only THINK you fool your parents.
They just don't let on what they know sometimes

hah! i was a bastard when i was young and i got my parents alot, dad is so stupid at times it worked easy as all hell

Grimson · Post by **Grimson** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:23 pm

Originally posted by brembo

Like Norm said, its part of growing up, and yer prolly kinda protective of yer sis, and good for you. Let her find out what life has to offer, best way to avoid being burned it to get singed once or twice, then yer less likely to repeat such silliness.

Norm and Brembo are right.

you could trick her into taking it out for around 8 hours or so, the tongue is the fastest healing part of the body and the hole will grow closed overnight.

Brent · Post by **Brent** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:27 pm

she also just got on the Pill

but i'm worried about that in one sence, it could be used as an excuse to have sex

"oh i'm on the pill, i can have as much sex as i want" kind of mentality etc....

there are definatly more issues going on here, which some of them I do know about, and our mom has no clue

i won't 'tattle' unless I know for sure about something or suspect something that could endanger/impact her health etc....

good comments so far, I am taking ya'lls advice, it sounds logical to me

Thanks everyone

EthanHunt16 · Post by **EthanHunt16** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:27 pm

well i dont have a sister and i hope to never have a daughter !!

that aside i think the best way and it may sound unusual and wierd, but its a sure fire way to have her change the way she is

catch her in the act, better yet have mom catch her in the act, she'll be in so much trouble she wont know whats hitting her, its tough love, and when she's older she will thank you

brembo · Post by **brembo** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:32 pm

The pill has side benefits, Brent. Helps zits, and keeps the menstrual cycle in check. Also helps the PMS situation some too. Women type folks lose alot of nutrients in that cycle, and thier hormones go all screwy, works on thier noggins too. The pill can help cushion those effects and can have helpful effects in mood swings.

*puts on asbestos suit*

This in no way means to state thet women have mental issues(thats a known fact anyways

) We guys have that nasty little homone called testosterone that makes us think farts and other bodily noises are insanly funny.

EthanHunt16 · Post by **EthanHunt16** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:33 pm

yah..... women are NOT mentally insane........

no theres not a gun to my head.........

Joe · Post by **Joe** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:33 pm

Acctually I would flat out tell her how you feel... Be all serious as if you weep at night about it... Then tell her its her decision and you arent going to run and tell the parents but for her to just keep in mind how you feel about it. (Lay on the guilt) :muahha:

JawZ · Post by **JawZ** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:38 pm

kick ass, get names, and keep it to yourself.

nuff said.

tr87526 · Post by **tr87526** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 7:59 pm

As a parent of a 17 year old daughter, I wouldn't say anything about the tougue ring BUT if this is one of many things that is leading to a destructive lifestyle (drugs, sex, alcohol - in which she could harm herself) then you have to step up and do something.

If she's basically a good kid and just testing her independence (sorta what Norm said) then just help her not stray off to far.

My daughter got her belly button pierced knowing I would not approve but she has straight A's in school, works hard at her job and 90% of the time listens to us, so I protested but dropped this issue after a couple days. Like in marriage, you have to pick your battles.

Good luck, its going to be tough but do what's best

CiscoKid · Post by **CiscoKid** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 8:16 pm

Originally posted by S1lv3r

Won't happen. Sis would find out, then be pissed at brent. Like eddie said, its between Brents mom and his sister. He should remain trustworthy unless it was more serious, like drugs or hangin out with voodoo preist's or something.

HEY S1LV3R, WE VOODOO PREISTS ARE NOT ALL MAD!!!!

A freind of mine got her tongue peirced because she was bored, others did it for looks. If she can pull it off, don't worry too much, but just in case...what's her ICQ number?

RoundEye · Post by **RoundEye** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 8:55 pm

Originally posted by tr87526
As a parent of a 17 year old daughter, I wouldn't say anything about the tougue ring BUT if this is one of many things that is leading to a destructive lifestyle (drugs, sex, alcohol - in which she could harm herself) then you have to step up and do something.

If she's basically a good kid and just testing her independence (sorta what Norm said) then just help her not stray off to far.

My daughter got her belly button pierced knowing I would not approve but she has straight A's in school, works hard at her job and 90% of the time listens to us, so I protested but dropped this issue after a couple days. Like in marriage, you have to pick your battles.

Good luck, its going to be tough but do what's best

I would say this is the best advice so far.

Talking about a lack of respect, do you call her a slut to her face?

Why call her that on the web?

Give respect, get respect.............. Think about it bro.

Rainbow · Post by **Rainbow** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 9:41 pm

I too have a 17 yr old daughter, shes quite the brain with straight A's plus. And because of this she gets priveliges, cars, freedom, etc. She asked for a belly ring and was told a resounding NO. When she turns 18 she can do what she wants but till then Im the boss. Also told her if she got one anyway Id rip it out....and I would..............Shes not mentioned it again and shes still a great student and person, but knows now NOT to push

TEH WIN · Post by **TEH WIN** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 10:12 pm

My sister is a slut, what should I do

send her my way. ill see what i can do

Gaming-Module · Post by **Gaming-Module** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 10:36 pm

Kinda harsh calling your sister a slut. I know piercings like that can make a person look sleazy, but this is your own flesh and blood for Christ's sake.

I think if you can't have the sort of respect for your sister that would prevent you from saying such a thing either she does have some serious issues and perhaps earned the title in a way, or there are other underlying issues you two have to work out between yourselves.

That's all I'm sayin.

Joint Chiefs of Staff · Tue Feb 19, 2002 10:50 pm

Originally posted by John

I have heard the stories, and met her. He's correct in his statement.

It's still his sister...flesh and blood.

Hell why should any of us defend her when Brent doesn't?

Gaming-Module · Post by **Gaming-Module** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 10:52 pm

No crap. If she's so bad then bring the hammer down on her a$s with a vengeance.

JawZ · Post by **JawZ** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 10:54 pm

Originally posted by Macho-Module
No crap. If she's so bad then bring the hammer down on her a$s with a vengeance.

well thats what I said from the get-go...

kick ass, get names, and keep it to himself.

The only way to get something done right is to do it yourself!

....roofles

terrancelam · Post by **terrancelam** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 10:56 pm

damn, even I wouldn't go as far as to say that about my sister. But then again;

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

Brent, if you really think your sister doesn't have the brains to find her way in life and is just going to get used by people for their own selfish acts, then do what you must and try and get her the help that she needs. But if you know that she is capable of higher things in her life, then let her live her own life. If you don't, she will never be able to over come the smallest hurdle in life.

Joint Chiefs of Staff · Tue Feb 19, 2002 10:57 pm

Originally posted by Macho-Module
No crap. If she's so bad then bring the hammer down on her a$s with a vengeance.

rhcowles · Post by **rhcowles** » Tue Feb 19, 2002 11:37 pm

Sounds like your sis trusts you. That's worth ALOT !!!
What's Mom gonna do if you tell her ? Will it really make any difference ? Their relationship will probably deteriorate even more.
Your sister will lose her trust in you so your relationship suffers.
I don't see much to be gained by telling.

jayyy · Post by **jayyy** » Wed Feb 20, 2002 12:37 am

I thank god my sister isn`t a slut. It would be the most shameful, angering thing, especially if my friends knew. But what are you gonna do? She`s out there partying and living her life. She`s having fun but doing sad and stupid stuff sometimes because she`s still a stupid kid. You can`t change her personality or her behavior. Just accept her for who she is.
Heres my own psychoanalysis- The tounge ring sounds like a sort of symbolic bone to pick, because it sounds like shes doing far worse things too. You`re getting upset about it because its an example of how she`s getting away with something, and keeping respect with your mom while you work hard, stay straight and don`t do anything bad. You`re angry that she still gets any little angel status when really she`s breaking all the rules and acting shamefully.
Let her have it. You can`t change how she is. Don`t worry about what she does and doesn`t get away with, if she`s behaving badly she`ll suffer the consequences eventually, one way or another. And don`t feel like she`s "won" somehow- she made her choices and you made hers. The life you`ve chosen is its own reward.

And none of that means you don`t love her- you guys are only going to be young for a little while, things will fall out eventually and she`ll smarten up and you`ll still love her and forgive her. But let her have her decisions even if you don`t respect them or they piss you off.

Teirney · Post by **Teirney** » Wed Feb 20, 2002 4:04 am

My 18 year old son has his tongue and nipple peirced. He got the tongue done when he was 17..I really don't mind. It is his body after all and he paid for it. He also has gotten into tats..what can you do.
Brent just because she does these strange things don't give her a title she may not be deserving. Teens these days are very uninhibited, and as I remember you are not far off from those years yourself. Did you ever do something totally bizzare just because?
IMO you should just ease up on her, or you might just push her into something she wasn't going to do anyway.

64bit · Post by **64bit** » Wed Feb 20, 2002 6:13 am

Wouldn't help a thing telling your mom. What I mean is that there is nothing you can do. The only thing that you can really do is sit back and hope she don't get in too much trouble. In the end hopefully she will come to the conclusion that the fast lane is too fast. Most do some don't, just the way it works.

ExarKun · Post by **ExarKun** » Wed Feb 20, 2002 10:37 am

I heard the words Slut and Tounge used in the same sentance.. Im so there.. Brent just let here come down to Florida For spring Break.. or hell I might just take a road trip to see this sister of yours.. POST Pictures

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