My dad...

CiscoKid · Post by **CiscoKid** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 12:03 am

Some of you guys might remember that my dad was diagnosed with Alzhiemers a few years ago...well he's been getting more and more violent over the last few months and on the first we ended up having to call the police to take him to the hospital...

He's been attacking other patients and staff both at the transitional facility the hospital sent him to...

I haven't been able to go visit him mainly because of my own fears...kinda scared that seeing me might set him off as I've mainly been the one he's gone after at home

blacklab · Post by **blacklab** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 3:25 am

Sorry about your father. Alzheimer's disease is a terrible illness. I don't think
there is anything worse to hit a family. It tears at the very soul.

I watched my father-in-law die over a period of ten years. It was a terrible
thing to watch him go from the nicest person I have ever known to someone
who had no idea what was going on.

Don't take it personally. The violent state will not last that long and he really
does not realize what is going on. The best thing to do is try and get him into a
care facility where he can be medicated to keep him from hurting himself or
others. Try connecting with some support groups for a better understanding.

Take care, my thoughts are with you. I hope you find the peace you need.

ghettoside · Post by **ghettoside** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 4:09 am

Sorry to hear this bro.

1 of my uncles had alzheimer's.

Roody · Post by **Roody** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 5:46 am

I am very sorry man.

Shinobi · Post by **Shinobi** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 7:27 am

I understand.. my grandfather got the same way..
The only way that I kept thinking about it, is that is not him,
that is the Alzheimer that is causing him to be that way.

Prayers sent man..

Leatherneck · Post by **Leatherneck** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 7:54 am

I know it's tough to see loved ones in that state. My little 'ol Grandmother said and did things that were completely out of character and when she grabbed a pistol one night while looking out the front door saying "They are going to get us", Grandpa had no choice but to get her into a home. She was a sweet little Italian lady that loved to cook & sew and that's the way I choose to remember.

OSULLY · Post by **OSULLY** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 10:13 am

A good freind went down that road, hard on all.

MadDoctor · Post by **MadDoctor** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 10:17 am

Leatherneck wrote:She was a sweet little Italian lady that loved to cook & sew and that's the way I choose to remember.

That's the way I choose to see those I know with Alzheimer. The person they were... not the person they are today.

I hope my children provide me the same respect.

David · Post by **David** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 10:29 am

MadDoctor wrote:That's the way I choose to see those I know with Alzheimer. The person they were... not the person they are today.

Very true. Sadly, the shell remains as an agonizing reminder of themselves.

I pray the lucid days come more often for your dad.

triniwasp · Post by **triniwasp** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 10:33 am

Cisco,

I'm sorry to hear that man. My girl's father was recently diagnosed, it isn't an easy thing to swallow, I know. Take care bud.

CiscoKid · Post by **CiscoKid** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 10:39 am

It makes it hard...my dad was the measure I've used to evaluate what a man should be...

He worked for a sign shop in thte 70's at the hight of Mafia control in Vegas......the shop he worked for made alot of neon signs for casinos down there. I knew so much, he was so smart...

Gixxer · Post by **Gixxer** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 10:39 am

sorry to hear.

Debbie · Post by **Debbie** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 11:15 am

My aunt has been in a nursing home for the past 15 years with the same thing. She started to scream and hit her grandchildren when it got bad.

I know it is not an easy thing to go through and watch him deteriorate. My prayers are with you and your family.

Now she is 90, bedridden, and is on her way out. I am surprised she lived that long.

MissTynker2 · Post by **MissTynker2** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 1:04 pm

Another dreaded disease. Stay in contact with the facility he is in? They should be able to tell you when or if it is safe to visit him? With some, the violent stage passes very quickly, with others it remains, and some never get to that point to begin with. Lets hope your Dad is in the first catagory!

RoundEye · Post by **RoundEye** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 5:20 pm

A friend of mines mom developed Alzhiemers right before hurricane Katrina and she now lives with him. Every now and then she ask to go home and be with husband. Her reaction after finding out (again) that her house was destroyed and her husband (his step-dad) was killed is unsettling to say the least. After a while he just started saying “I’ll bring you home in a while momma”. She forgets about that damn hurricane.

Yep, Alzhiemers sucks hard.

CiscoKid · Post by **CiscoKid** » Mon Apr 06, 2009 6:00 pm

He's said a few things that makes my aunt think he has PTSD...

He told my sister he saw dead people, I'm thinking the bodies of his team mates?

He's also walked into the living room in the middle of the night saying "You're not there, you're not real"