Looking for an article to help women understand a mans sex drive

ColdFusion · Post by **ColdFusion** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 3:27 am

Hey Guys,

I'm in need of some help! I'm trying hard to explain to my girlfriend why sex is so important to men. She basically sees the fact that I want sex as the only thing I value in our relationship. This is not true ... i'm trying to explain to her that it is an emotional need as well. It meets an emotional need of affection and being desired and attractive and that denying sex over long periods of time can have detrimental effects on a man. I'm actually getting all of this information from this article: http://hubpages.com/hub/Why-Sex-is-Important-to-Men because i feel it most accurately describes how I feel. Unfortunately as a university student ... i think? she will only accept something a little more factual or even just from a more reputable source than a blogger. I can't find anything ...

Any ideas!?
Thanks so much
Matt

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 4:02 am

I would never explain why, I would just concentrate on "getting to home plate".

64bit · Post by **64bit** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:01 am

you really think an article is gonna matter? If she is frigid find another partner. Why waste time, especially at this point in your life?

Post by **YeOldeStonecat** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:19 am

If she's not "She's presenting like a mandrill!" ( I love 64 bits sig!).....point her towards Dr Bermans website for some articles.
Now if I recall, you're fairly fresh out of college? Just trying to put an age on her....I'm guessing low to mid 20's...she should have a fairly active drive now. Granted she's got 15 - 20 years until she hits her prime drive...but still, upper teens and twenties, she should still have a strong sex drive. I don't know what your level of commitment is with her, how long you've been with her, but perhaps if her sex drive is very low...there may be some underlying reasons...going way back in her past. And that may be something you want to closely examine right now..and make a decision on.

Sava700 · Post by **Sava700** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 8:21 am

April Fools joke is funny

RoundEye · Post by **RoundEye** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 4:48 pm

So you want US to help YOU get laid? Good Luck on that one.

ColdFusion · Post by **ColdFusion** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 5:04 pm

We're actually breaking up. We've had quite an up and down relationship ... 7 months. Long story short we're both at very different points in our lives and are both looking for different things. I feel like she didn't understand why sex was so important to me and that it for me is one of the major reasons we are breaking up. Anyways, i guess its more of a heads up for future relationships for her. Thanks for the help

P.s I am moving on!

TNATireFryer · Post by **TNATireFryer** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 7:47 pm

this might be out of line -
she got a hot sister? - what are you waiting for?

or move on - there's lots of sand in the sea i wish i was 20 again -

Meggie · Post by **Meggie** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 9:08 pm

Consider this from a womans point of view. I promise im not trying to insult you here, but you are young. My suggestion would be to research how to be better in bed, not why its important. Your current relationship is over, but there will be more in the future. Young guys tend to learn a lot of how to be in bed from porn and for most chicks that kind of sucks. So they might not want it as much. I might be way off base but I would imagine its why there are more articles out there on how to be better or more compatible in the sack, then there are articles on why men need sex.

Sava700 · Post by **Sava700** » Fri Apr 01, 2011 10:33 pm

What Meggie is trying to say is you should invest in alot of sex toys and book of the best positions!

Meggie · Post by **Meggie** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 2:29 am

sex toys? no.. just saying make it worth her while or else she may just choose to watch tv or whatever instead.

Dan · Post by **Dan** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 2:36 am

Meggie wrote: My suggestion would be to research how to be better in bed, not why its important.

at my age ,knowing what I know and have learned,and my relationship with my wife ,at our age of 51,& IMO we have a pretty active sex life,

I couldn't agree more with Meggie.

good advice for sure.

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 9:38 am

Don't be putting your pecker into anything that you don't intend to marry. Why you ask? Child support can be a little bit taxing on your income.

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Sat Apr 02, 2011 10:33 pm

Perhaps this will help you understand.

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Unholy · Post by **Unholy** » Sun Apr 03, 2011 2:51 am

blebs wrote:Don't be putting your pecker into anything that you don't intend to marry. Why you ask? Child support can be a little bit taxing on your income.

What about the back door?

Debbie · Post by **Debbie** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:51 am

Lefty wrote:I would never explain why, I would just concentrate on "getting to home plate".

I like this quote!

All joking aside, if she is not ready, it isn't going to happen.

How you make her feel is how she will respond.

Sex will NOT fulfill emotional needs. It will only fulfull the physical need.

Real intimacy is the answer to emotional fulfullment.

Trust me on this one.

Sava700 · Post by **Sava700** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 12:46 pm

Debbie wrote:

I like this quote!

All joking aside, if she is not ready, it isn't going to happen.

How you make her feel is how she will respond.

Sex will NOT fulfill emotional needs. It will only fulfull the physical need.

Real intimacy is the answer to emotional fulfullment.

Trust me on this one.

Typical woman response

Roody · Post by **Roody** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 1:35 pm

Debbie wrote:

I like this quote!

All joking aside, if she is not ready, it isn't going to happen.

How you make her feel is how she will respond.

Sex will NOT fulfill emotional needs. It will only fulfull the physical need.

Real intimacy is the answer to emotional fulfullment.

Trust me on this one.

and that's why most of the smilie faces in your avatar have blue balls.

Humboldt · Post by **Humboldt** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 2:42 pm

So LinuxDawg...was the girlfriend real this time?

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 3:35 pm

Humboldt wrote:So LinuxDawg...was the girlfriend real this time?

Oh no you DID!!!!

Lefty · Post by **Lefty** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 3:36 pm

That was one of the top five funniest threads on SG. Prey owns a few of those.

Humboldt · Post by **Humboldt** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 4:06 pm

Lefty wrote:Oh no you DID!!!!

Someone had to

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Mon Apr 04, 2011 10:00 pm

Unholy wrote:What about the back door?

No, then you get bassturds.

Debbie · Post by **Debbie** » Tue Apr 05, 2011 9:54 am

Sava700 wrote:Typical woman response

Why, because it is the truth?