I have been in a relationship with the person I have been in love with most of my adult life. Sometime in the last two years I lost myself and became complacent. Which made my significant other fall out of love with me. I kept trying to have him give it another shot but you cant make someone be in love with you. I have no doubt that he loves me but the IN LOVE is gone.
I will be moving to Seattle Washington in the next month. I cant go back to Ohio because theres really nothing there for me. So once again I will not be lurking on the boards for quite sometime. Good luck all.
So I am moving once again
Good luck in your journeys 
I think you might like Seattle...my sister's lived up there for about the last ten years or so...
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“The most beautiful thing we can experience in life is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: for his eyes are closed.” - Albert Einstein
“The most beautiful thing we can experience in life is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: for his eyes are closed.” - Albert Einstein
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I don't get it, Anna. Just because you become "complacient" in the relationship shouldn't be a reason for the "love of your life" to just fall out of love. The problem "isn't" you, it's him.
Don't pull stakes just because of him. Do it only for you. After all if your single, then it's only "you" and your family that now matters.
Last piece of advice and you certianly don't have to take it. This isn't the first time. Don't take him back........Nada..
Don't pull stakes just because of him. Do it only for you. After all if your single, then it's only "you" and your family that now matters.
Last piece of advice and you certianly don't have to take it. This isn't the first time. Don't take him back........Nada..
The tools of conquest do not necessarily come with bombs and explosions and fallout. There are weapons that are simply thoughts, attitudes, and prejudices to be found only in the minds of men. For the record, prejudices can kill and suspicion can destroy and a thoughtless, frightened search for a scapegoat has a fallout all of its own for the children and the children yet unborn and the pity of it is that these things cannot be confined to the Twilight Zone.
Just the houses that are close to the freeways and the rail systems....YARDofSTUF wrote:Be careful, I hear its hard to sleep there.
The tools of conquest do not necessarily come with bombs and explosions and fallout. There are weapons that are simply thoughts, attitudes, and prejudices to be found only in the minds of men. For the record, prejudices can kill and suspicion can destroy and a thoughtless, frightened search for a scapegoat has a fallout all of its own for the children and the children yet unborn and the pity of it is that these things cannot be confined to the Twilight Zone.
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Beats me. That looked like a chick flick.YARDofSTUF wrote:Is that what the movie was about?
....I do have the CD though. There was some good music on it.The tools of conquest do not necessarily come with bombs and explosions and fallout. There are weapons that are simply thoughts, attitudes, and prejudices to be found only in the minds of men. For the record, prejudices can kill and suspicion can destroy and a thoughtless, frightened search for a scapegoat has a fallout all of its own for the children and the children yet unborn and the pity of it is that these things cannot be confined to the Twilight Zone.
Yeah, you're a closet Harry Connick Jr fan, aren't you...downhill wrote:Beats me. That looked like a chick flick.
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“The most beautiful thing we can experience in life is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: for his eyes are closed.” - Albert Einstein
“The most beautiful thing we can experience in life is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead: for his eyes are closed.” - Albert Einstein
LOL....No but the CD did have Screaming Trees.....that was pretty cool. Some other stuff on there too.
The tools of conquest do not necessarily come with bombs and explosions and fallout. There are weapons that are simply thoughts, attitudes, and prejudices to be found only in the minds of men. For the record, prejudices can kill and suspicion can destroy and a thoughtless, frightened search for a scapegoat has a fallout all of its own for the children and the children yet unborn and the pity of it is that these things cannot be confined to the Twilight Zone.
Welcome to Washington, at least. Perhaps we can meet up sometime - I've wondered what you were like in person for a while now. And Seattle is cool, full of things to do and places to be.Annalysa wrote:I have been in a relationship with the person I have been in love with most of my adult life. Sometime in the last two years I lost myself and became complacent. Which made my significant other fall out of love with me. I kept trying to have him give it another shot but you cant make someone be in love with you. I have no doubt that he loves me but the IN LOVE is gone.
I will be moving to Seattle Washington in the next month. I cant go back to Ohio because theres really nothing there for me. So once again I will not be lurking on the boards for quite sometime. Good luck all.
So trade that typical for something colorful, and if it's crazy live a little crazy!
Sorry to hear about your personal situation. If you're coming to Seattle for yourself, you'll love it. There's a TON of cool stuff to do and see living around Puget Sound.
The one downside is the weather. It can be gray and dreary for some long stretches, though when it's nice it makes up for it. Also, real estate in the city is pricey. Otherwise, there's excellent mountain biking, hiking, camping, scuba diving, a great music scene, good restaurants, and more.
I've had offers to move a few other places, but it's hard to leave.
The one downside is the weather. It can be gray and dreary for some long stretches, though when it's nice it makes up for it. Also, real estate in the city is pricey. Otherwise, there's excellent mountain biking, hiking, camping, scuba diving, a great music scene, good restaurants, and more.
I've had offers to move a few other places, but it's hard to leave.
When they kick at your front door, how you gonna come? With your hands at your head, or the trigger of your gun?
you will find your wayAnnalysa wrote:I have been in a relationship with the person I have been in love with most of my adult life. Sometime in the last two years I lost myself and became complacent. Which made my significant other fall out of love with me. I kept trying to have him give it another shot but you cant make someone be in love with you. I have no doubt that he loves me but the IN LOVE is gone.
I will be moving to Seattle Washington in the next month. I cant go back to Ohio because theres really nothing there for me. So once again I will not be lurking on the boards for quite sometime. Good luck all.
and remember you can post on SG from anywhere !
downhill wrote:I don't get it, Anna. Just because you become "complacient" in the relationship shouldn't be a reason for the "love of your life" to just fall out of love. The problem "isn't" you, it's him.
Don't pull stakes just because of him. Do it only for you. After all if your single, then it's only "you" and your family that now matters.
Last piece of advice and you certianly don't have to take it. This isn't the first time. Don't take him back........Nada..
Anna, I agree with DH. He has a good point. Do it for you. You'll be much happier too. Please keep in touch with us and let us know how you are doing.
Oh i dont think I will ever leave speedguide. I am normally lurking somewhere. Just kinda feel like a lost soul right now. I am so dreading packing and then driving 7 hours to wait at home till I have money to head out. However the wait shouldnt be to long I am thinking a week or so.
My current roommate has promised to make sure he got me out there and helped till I get a job. I trust himl, we have gone through way to much together for him to leave me hanging and he wants me to find myself again.
I just dont know really about anything at this point. I sent out some resumes yesterday and have already gotten phone calls for jobs. I have a nice place to live by some park and the waterfront. I have a dear wise friend who I am staying with the rents expensive but I will get by.
As for not taking him back if the situation arises I cant say no in some weird way I think we both know its right. I just have to grow up alot and not be so fricking controlling. I learned recently that I am from a group of controlling women and apparently I am the Queen.
I am thinking conseling and the good old Seattle engery is going to be good for me. I hope it at least eases the pain. The pain in this is so unreal. I have had other relationships end and it sucked for a minute but then I realized its ok I can find someone else in what two days. I dont want anyone else I never have. We promised to remain friends and be there for each other. I know that will happen.
And Paft sure I would love to meet you I always found you an interesting fellow. I kinda think you will be on the other side of the sound but I am not sure. I apperantly staying by belivider park or something.
My current roommate has promised to make sure he got me out there and helped till I get a job. I trust himl, we have gone through way to much together for him to leave me hanging and he wants me to find myself again.
I just dont know really about anything at this point. I sent out some resumes yesterday and have already gotten phone calls for jobs. I have a nice place to live by some park and the waterfront. I have a dear wise friend who I am staying with the rents expensive but I will get by.
As for not taking him back if the situation arises I cant say no in some weird way I think we both know its right. I just have to grow up alot and not be so fricking controlling. I learned recently that I am from a group of controlling women and apparently I am the Queen.
I am thinking conseling and the good old Seattle engery is going to be good for me. I hope it at least eases the pain. The pain in this is so unreal. I have had other relationships end and it sucked for a minute but then I realized its ok I can find someone else in what two days. I dont want anyone else I never have. We promised to remain friends and be there for each other. I know that will happen.
And Paft sure I would love to meet you I always found you an interesting fellow. I kinda think you will be on the other side of the sound but I am not sure. I apperantly staying by belivider park or something.
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Wow Anna....you certainly have a plate full!! One incident alone would be hard enough to work on, let alone the two you are looking at. I am sorry for you pain. 
Washington however, is a beautiful state. It would be on my list for relocation should that ever occur, but as had been already stated...go for YOU...not for HIM...or it will fail on you. I sincerely wish you the best of luck...and you KNOW we are here for ya!
Washington however, is a beautiful state. It would be on my list for relocation should that ever occur, but as had been already stated...go for YOU...not for HIM...or it will fail on you. I sincerely wish you the best of luck...and you KNOW we are here for ya!
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When you say go for you. I dont see any alternatives. I have to go I cant live like this. None of this is for me its just the best solution I can find for a crappy situation that I dont think I personally have had the time to fix. So we seperate and he can go on living his life. I have to live mine. Theres to many things I havent accomplished yet. I holding on to what little hope I have left and it keeps getting smaller and smaller. I am so scared of everything. I have no idea what the future holds and why this road is closing and where the next one will go.
Anna: Know that it is not just for you to fix. It takes two to tango hon. He has to work with it just as you do. If you are putting the "ability for the relationship to last" on you and you alone, it is destined to failure. Both partners have to always work at the relationship, even after it has been established, it still requires work on both parties.Annalysa wrote:When you say go for you. I dont see any alternatives. I have to go I cant live like this. None of this is for me its just the best solution I can find for a crappy situation that I dont think I personally have had the time to fix. So we seperate and he can go on living his life. I have to live mine. Theres to many things I havent accomplished yet. I holding on to what little hope I have left and it keeps getting smaller and smaller. I am so scared of everything. I have no idea what the future holds and why this road is closing and where the next one will go.
Yeah, I'm over in Bremerton. It's an hour ferry ride across the sound, but it's not a huge pain for me to make the trip.Annalysa wrote:And Paft sure I would love to meet you I always found you an interesting fellow. I kinda think you will be on the other side of the sound but I am not sure. I apperantly staying by belivider park or something.
And I think I know the area you'll be in - but that's not hard to figure out once you move in. Heck, might just be safer to meet up in Pioneer Square or something like that, at least neither of us will get lost. Hard to miss that area.Besides. I've been jonsing to go to Seattle again for way too long now - been living here two years and been to Seattle all of what, eight times? :/
So trade that typical for something colorful, and if it's crazy live a little crazy!
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