Does Grounding kids work?

Subsane · Post by **Subsane** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:40 am

I was a repeat offender myself and always seemed to be grounded.... I don't it worked

White_Mage · Post by **White_Mage** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 3:22 am

I think it depend on the person him/her self..

Subsane wrote:I was a repeat offender myself and always seemed to be grounded.... I don't it worked

Croc · Post by **Croc** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 3:44 am

Not really.

Taking one or two of their priveleges or favourite toys/games off them for a time works better IMO.

Croc.

loop2kil · Post by **loop2kil** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 4:28 am

personally i like beating them into submission ...j/k

I think taking something they love away works best like croc said. at least it works good with my 7 year old

vinnie · Post by **vinnie** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 4:50 am

I was inordinately resistant to any such form of punishment. Not that I ever required much, but threats of deprivation or actual deprivation of something has never been a deterrent of any sort to me.

Like I said though, I was a rather well behaved kid, my biggest crime was getting annoyed at my parents when my sibling was stealing from me and they insisted it was just 'boys being boys'. Of course, in the end he turned out to be a drug addict thief who literally kicked my father, so I was fairly justified in getting upset with them for not curbing his behaviour.

Still, it really depends on what kind of value the kid puts on what you intend depriving them of. If liberty isn't the top priority of theirs, then grounding won't work.

Zilog B · Post by **Zilog B** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 9:25 am

Depends on the voltage

j/k

Scott · Post by **Scott** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 9:44 am

I don't think it works that well, no more than "time out" does. Usually a good whipping will straighten them out for awhile.

mountainman · Post by **mountainman** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 10:01 am

It worked for me.

I plan to use that as much as possible when raising my own. If it comes down to it, a belt could be used, but that will be last resort. I always found that when my room consisted of a bed, light, clock and some books, I was ready to shape up.

LOL

brembo · Post by **brembo** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 10:04 am

schlurpee wrote:Depends on the voltage

j/k

Bad pun, great visual.

Spammy · Post by **Spammy** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:03 pm

It didn't work for me it just made me dislike them more when i was home all day doing nothing. So when i would get of grounding i would go do something again to piss them 0ff.

Immortal · Post by **Immortal** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:05 pm

Nope I was never grounded. I turned out great me thinks (twitches)

morbidpete · Post by **morbidpete** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:26 pm

didnt work for me..still did what i did..i just saw it as time off..nothing you can do..

Brent · Post by **Brent** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:35 pm

I think just grounding, without any other punishment, will have NO effect.

But grounding, with a firm whipping proceeding the grounding, may sink in a little with the kid.

DaddyLongLeg · Post by **DaddyLongLeg** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:41 pm

According to Nanny 911 it does. But it didn't work on me or my brother. We were both on drugs by high school (for the record, we're clean now).

fastchevy · Post by **fastchevy** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:47 pm

I was grounded most of my teenage years, which means no it doesn't work. If it did work, I would have learned my lesson after the first few times. I see it as a mild form of punishment/annoyance.

Now, will I ever ground Riley...? That is a good question, and yeah probably so if he deserves it and it doesn't warrant anything more. Will I whip his ass if need be? You bet!

koldchillah · Post by **koldchillah** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:58 pm

Croc wrote: Taking one or two of their priveleges or favourite toys/games off them for a time works better IMO.

Croc.

It depends on what the parents' define "grounded" as.

Growing up in my house, if my dad said I was grounded, that meant I come home from school, I do yard work until dark then eat dinner and go to my room which will have all my electronic devices and toys either disconnected or removed.. I then had to do homework until "lights out" and if I didn't have any homework, my dad would pick a textbook and have me outline a chapter or something tediously similar.

Being grounded sucked!! I hated it.. It worked like champ.. Especially during grades 2-9..

Brent · Post by **Brent** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 12:59 pm

fastchevy wrote:Will I whip his ass if need be? You bet!

there ya go

wish more parents did this

we wouldn't have half the troubles with people as we do now

Massa · Post by **Massa** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:10 pm

I think too many PC dumbasses dont consider the fact that a reasonable level of spaking is not harmful at all. My parents spanked me and I learned fast. I hold no anger toward them for this either and will practice the same thing with my children - regardless of idiotic laws.

Brent · Post by **Brent** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:12 pm

same here, my dad whipped me with his belt

it helped

it helped more than the groundings did

Spammy · Post by **Spammy** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:14 pm

My dad whooped our ass but it didnt work.
No matter what you do they have minds of there own and they will make there own decisions either way.

RicRogue · Post by **RicRogue** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:14 pm

Spanking is probably the best method I use. One thing about spanking, is that it should never be done in anger. You should sit down with the child before and after to discuss with him/her their error.

RicRogue

Spammy · Post by **Spammy** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:15 pm

RicRogue wrote:Spanking is probably the best method I use. One thing about spanking, is that it should never be done in anger. You should sit down with the child before and after to discuss with him/her their error.

RicRogue

Ric you sound like a great dad.

RicRogue · Post by **RicRogue** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:22 pm

Hatebreed wrote:Ric you sound like a great dad.

I'll let you know in 12 years. Then they will be out of the house, and on their own. That is only the time, their true character will be shown.

It is my prayer, that I am.

Thanks,

RicRogue

Spammy · Post by **Spammy** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:26 pm

RicRogue wrote:I'll let you know in 12 years. Then they will be out of the house, and on their own. That is only the time, their true character will be shown.

It is my prayer, that I am.

Thanks,

RicRogue

Well let me give you a little insight your a good day..

Noevo · Post by **Noevo** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 1:29 pm

brembo wrote:

Bad pun, great visual.

heh I keep thinking of the climax to "the thing"

Croc · Post by **Croc** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 2:53 pm

koldchillah wrote:It depends on what the parents' define "grounded" as.

Growing up in my house, if my dad said I was grounded, that meant I come home from school, I do yard work until dark then eat dinner and go to my room which will have all my electronic devices and toys either disconnected or removed.. I then had to do homework until "lights out" and if I didn't have any homework, my dad would pick a textbook and have me outline a chapter or something tediously similar.

Being grounded sucked!! I hated it.. It worked like champ.. Especially during grades 2-9..

IMO what you describe was too harsh but then, it would depend on the severity of the crime.It's no wonder you hated it.

Croc.

koldchillah · Post by **koldchillah** » Thu Dec 02, 2004 3:35 pm

Croc wrote:IMO what you describe was too harsh but then, it would depend on the severity of the crime.It's no wonder you hated it.

Croc.

I could have done without the shoveling of horse maneur until dark part, but other than that it wasn't going to kill me and it became instilled in me rather early that it is not advisable to push the boundaries of my father's rules.

I was probably grounded 3 or so times a year.. Usually for 3-10 days depending on what kind of trouble I had gotten into..

When I got my first "D" on a report card my dad wrapped a pretty bow around a new shovel and put it under the Christmas tree as a gag gift just to illustrate to me that if I didn't pick up my grades the shovel was going to become my best friend. It was during those years as a kid that I learned that working in the A/C would be far more comfortable than working in the sun.

When all my friends started skipping school during Middle School & High School, I never joined them for fear of that "one time" when I would be busted and would have to deal with dad. I wasn't willing to take risks that could land me in trouble with him.

I guess it was a healthy form of parental intimidation. ::shrugs::: My dad and I are very close.. Best of friends you might say..

goth_kid · Post by **goth_kid** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 6:49 am

no it dont work as kids will just start pissing the perans off and that will be a wast of time iv been grounded meny times but i just jumped out a windo cuz i stuped and then stad at my girlfriends house for about 9 weeks and my perant shat them selfs thay never botherd with that agen now thay scard to even shout at me

YARDofSTUF · Post by **YARDofSTUF** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 6:51 am

goth_kid wrote:no it dont work as kids will just start pissing the perans off and that will be a wast of time iv been grounded meny times but i just jumped out a windo cuz i stuped and then stad at my girlfriends house for about 9 weeks and my perant shat them selfs thay never botherd with that agen now thay scard to even shout at me

Shut up, you're grounded!

ghettoside · Post by **ghettoside** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 10:16 am

goth_kid wrote:no it dont work as kids will just start pissing the perans off and that will be a wast of time iv been grounded meny times but i just jumped out a windo cuz i stuped and then stad at my girlfriends house for about 9 weeks and my perant shat them selfs thay never botherd with that agen now thay scard to even shout at me

I never got grounded, I always obeyed my parents and I was a straight A student.

just look at me now!

It's actually not a laughing matter.

I have no children, but I have friends who do. I like kids, they like me. usually.

I don't think grounding works too good. I know someone who's grounded for a month right now, lol. From what I've been told... all that has accomplished is delaying the inevitable... a return to the behavior which caused the grounding.

I've seen that result w/ others before.

I always think talking/reasoning is a better way... but then I have no kids of my own... just my opinion based on observations of others.

goth_kid, your attitude bothers me for a couple reasons.

Your parents obviously love you, but I get the impression they can't relate to you.

Do you have any idea how scared your parents were by your running away?

Your life can only be spent once. Think about that. I know, you're a kid and you're prolly gonna just laugh.

What you've done to your parents is analagous to a dog who learns that biting will make you stop putting ear drops in his ears... he'll keep biting... the problem becomes even more difficult to fix.

.

one hell of a bump

ss soon as I saw Croc's first post I tripped.

Dan · Post by **Dan** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 11:14 am

goth_kid wrote:no it dont work as kids will just start pissing the perans off and that will be a wast of time iv been grounded meny times but i just jumped out a windo cuz i stuped and then stad at my girlfriends house for about 9 weeks and my perant shat them selfs thay never botherd with that agen now thay scard to even shout at me

ever heard of spellcheck ?

ghettoside · Post by **ghettoside** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 11:33 am

I had one last thought on this.

One really bad way grounding can go is that there may be a feeling of wanting to make up for lost time, either consciously or subconsciously.

Whatever the problem behavior is.

Grounding is also analagous to imprisonment.

You'd think a person just out of prison would be on the straight and narrow for some time after being released.

That's not usually the way it goes.

I've known guys fresh out of prison... they tend to try and make up for lost time.

jeremyboycool · Post by **jeremyboycool** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 2:38 pm

Dan wrote:ever heard of spellcheck ?

Do you mean spellchecker?

Post by **YeOldeStonecat** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 2:45 pm

How did a Google search revive this thread?

I'm with Koldchillah...it creates a healthy respect for the rules. I believe it works best when instilled early on, little effect when done later in their teen-ish years. but that time, if they've dropped respect, it's quite difficult.

I remember plenty of times of going to the room, no TV downstairs, no going over friends houses, or having them over. I remember similar things with my friends that came from healthy family households too....sometimes I'd go over their house after school, knock on the door..their mom would answer.."Nope, he can't come out to play..he's grounded".

Combined with "You earn your privileges...they all are not granted rights. Want something...work for it."

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 2:54 pm

necrobump

jeremyboycool · Post by **jeremyboycool** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 3:10 pm

CableDude wrote:necrobump

It's OK it was done by a goth.

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 3:17 pm

Humboldt · Post by **Humboldt** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 3:17 pm

jeremyboycool wrote:It's OK it was done by a goth.

Even worse.

Bastid · Post by **Bastid** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 5:54 pm

Zilog B wrote:Depends on the voltage

j/k

hahahahhaha I just got that on the second go round!
I just assumed that you were a fellow shock collar advocate until i read it again...

M1ssy8402 · Post by **M1ssy8402** » Sat Sep 13, 2008 9:43 pm

Well, I don't know if this helps any or not, but I was raised with spankings, sometimes a little harder than your slap on the butt, but like a good leather belt or any other welt making instrument was available. Surprisingly enough, if I wanted to do it bad enough, the spanking was well worth it. However when I became older, say teenage years, I was disciplined by taking things away that I wanted like the car, or going out on Friday nights, etc. I can tell you this, it better have been worth the world for me to screw up my social life and entertainment for even a short period of time, I would have rather been spanked or beaten for 10 minutes and that was the end of it. But everyone is different. What works for one prob won't work for another, but I guess its a point of view of where grounding did work.