Originally posted by Burke It was a dark time...I lost all respect for women and couldn't have a "normal" relationship because of it.
I find that surprising. You seem to be a very smart man. Why would you associate what you seen on the screen with reality? Those "actors" are prostitutes, they have sex for money. The women depicted are gross distortions.
shant,
david
I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who make things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer.
Originally posted by nepenthe I find that surprising. You seem to be a very smart man. Why would you associate what you seen on the screen with reality? Those "actors" are prostitutes, they have sex for money. The women depicted are gross distortions.
shant,
david
No, no...I never viewed real-life women with a porn purveyor's eyes, but I meant that I developed certain "appetites" that didn't translate well in the real world, expectations based upon what I was watching that I never considered would be offensive or upsetting to others. Sex became a disconnect between how I normally am and how I became when the situation presented itself. I transformed into an obscene caricature of what I'd seen other men be.
My mentality was such that it took a long while before I held sex in its proper light...not just as a desire for physical pleasure, but also as an expression of emotions and love and not the purely aggressive and more animalistic tool it had become through my overindulgence in pornography.
Originally posted by Burke No, no...I never viewed real-life women with a porn purveyor's eyes. I meant that I developed certain "appetites" that didn't translate well in the real world, expectations based upon what I was watching that I never considered would be offensive or, in some cases, even frightening, to others. It was like sex became a disconnect between how I normally am and how I became when the situation presented itself.
My mentality was such that it took a long while before I held sex in its proper light...not just as a desire for physical pleasure, but also as an expression of emotions and love and not the purely aggressive and more animalistic tool it had become through my overindulgence in pornography.
I see, thank you for the explanation.
Indeed porn is a distortion of sexual and emotional reality. Because it does engage the libido, the mind will focus almost as a predator to what is seen. This is certainly more engrossing than watching an episode of Star Trek .
If you do not mind my asking, what was your catharsis? Did you find/ substitute religion as your model?
shant,
david
I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who make things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer.
Originally posted by Burke I've had sex, but as I watched more and more it became a case of me emulating the more extreme varieties I saw on-screen solely for the sensations.
maybe u just need to find a girl with similar 'interests'
Originally posted by Meggie maybe u just need to find a girl with similar 'interests'
im sure theyre out there.. somewhere
Unfortunately like many men, with unreal expectations of their potential suitors.
I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who make things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer.
Originally posted by axtrader That's why God invented the tunnel bunnies.
Ax, you slay me!!! ROTFLMAO!!!!!
I want to learn more and more to see as beautiful what is necessary in things; then I shall be one of those who make things beautiful. Amor fati: let that be my love henceforth! I do not want to wage war against what is ugly. I do not want to accuse; I do not even want to accuse those who accuse. Looking away shall be my only negation. And all in all and on the whole: some day I wish to be only a Yes-sayer.
Originally posted by axtrader Tunnel Bunnies are bottom-tier (and often toothless) prostitutes that work near NYC's Lincoln and Holland Tunnels, right Prey?
LOL, learn something new everyday
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David,
A while back, you posted an old clip, circa 1950's-early 60's, that descibed this exact behavior... Porn pervs or something along those lines... Do you remember?
Originally posted by Burke No, no...I never viewed real-life women with a porn purveyor's eyes, but I meant that I developed certain "appetites" that didn't translate well in the real world, expectations based upon what I was watching that I never considered would be offensive or upsetting to others. Sex became a disconnect between how I normally am and how I became when the situation presented itself. I transformed into an obscene caricature of what I'd seen other men be.
My mentality was such that it took a long while before I held sex in its proper light...not just as a desire for physical pleasure, but also as an expression of emotions and love and not the purely aggressive and more animalistic tool it had become through my overindulgence in pornography.