If I may

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Tue Feb 08, 2011 6:49 pm

Have an employee that may be leaving. Right now, I no longer feel comfortable nor feel the need to waste my time working with this person any more.

I would like to just call them out and say make your choice so I can get on with my job. I have bent over backwards and over looked a lot with this person over the last year.

The part that hurts me the most is that I have truly enjoyed working with this person and I tend to forget everything else that is going on when we are working together.

I guess making the sun rise and set on someone gets you no where in the end.

Maybe I'm the one in the wrong here.

ace · Post by **ace** » Tue Feb 08, 2011 7:33 pm

Really man dont you think its time to find a new job if you hate it so much? I see tons of your post about your job but you do nothing about it. Seems like you would get a new job but you dont, maybe you just like to bitch? Just trying to understand why you stay there if you dont like it.

YARDofSTUF · Post by **YARDofSTUF** » Tue Feb 08, 2011 7:35 pm

Over the years you've made it sound as though your place of work is the most miserable place in the US to work. So hearing someone is leaving doesn't sound strange or bad.

Even if it was a decent place to work at, if that person thinks they have a better opportunity, it could make sense for them to leave.

Post by **YeOldeStonecat** » Tue Feb 08, 2011 7:54 pm

CableDude wrote: Right now, I no longer feel comfortable nor feel the need to waste my time working with this person any more.
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Right there is the problem. If you enjoyed working the person......why suddenly stop enjoying working with them. If they're leaving the job for some reason...no matter what the reason, if you enjoyed working with them, if you enjoyed the person.....relish that, be thankful for the chance to have done so. Yeah it's sad when a co-working that you liked leaves...but it's just another chapter in your job/life. Someone else may come in to fill that spot....they may be better, they may be worse..but they'll be unique.

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Tue Feb 08, 2011 9:19 pm

ace wrote:Really man dont you think its time to find a new job if you hate it so much? I see tons of your post about your job but you do nothing about it. Seems like you would get a new job but you dont, maybe you just like to bitch? Just trying to understand why you stay there if you dont like it.

I welcome the day that I can post here about finding another job. It is not going to happen in the near future. I am not in the position to move to another city or state.

Maybe I'm just not looking in the right places to find something else.

Post by **YeOldeStonecat** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 6:44 am

CableDude wrote:
Maybe I'm just not looking in the right places to find something else.

Are you in a very small town, and this is the only place with larger IT needs around?
We're hiring! Looking for someone to fill the shoes of book keeper, phones, and marketing.

How about a change of career? I'm looking to bail in IT in another year or two...once my wife gets more settled and steady in her real estate....I'll be joining her.

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 8:47 am

Hey, the Marines are always looking for a few good men.

YARDofSTUF · Post by **YARDofSTUF** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 12:10 pm

blebs wrote:Hey, the Marines are always looking for a few good men.

Oh real nice, man. Way to go. "A few good men." Hes hurting because hes losing a good co-worker and you call him fat!

Shinobi · Post by **Shinobi** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 6:22 pm

YeOldeStonecat wrote: I'm looking to bail in IT in another year or two...once my wife gets more settled and steady in her real estate....I'll be joining her.

What!

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 8:08 pm

YeOldeStonecat wrote: How about a change of career?

Would love to. Problem is I know nothing else. When I see what you, and others post of your technical knowledge, I'm not even in the same league anymore.

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 8:09 pm

blebs wrote:Hey, the Marines are always looking for a few good men.

I would fail instantly.

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Wed Feb 09, 2011 10:26 pm

I just can't believe how I let people's actions "get to me"

*shakes head

Debbie · Post by **Debbie** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 8:56 am

We love ya CD. I know at times we get a little critical on ya. Sometimes others (who are not involved) can see what you are doing.

What I see that is your stumbling block is this:

It is not going to happen in the near future. I am not in the position to move to another city or state.

You see...we create our reality. Tomorrow is a result of your thoughts and words this very second. If you say "it is not going to happen in the near future," it won't. You are projecting that.

Anything is possible. Just because you can't see it at this time, doesn't mean it is impossible.

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 9:34 am

CableDude wrote:I would fail instantly.

Hey they won't even talk to me. Do you think it's because I'm just not a good man or because of my oxygen cannula that is stuck in my nose?

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 9:39 am

Debbie wrote:You see...we create our reality. Tomorrow is a result of your thoughts and words this very second. If you say "it is not going to happen in the near future," it won't. You are projecting that.

Anything is possible. Just because you can't see it at this time, doesn't mean it is impossible.

So if I say you and I are going to have sex in the future, it will happen?

Debbie · Post by **Debbie** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 11:37 am

blebs wrote:So if I say you and I are going to have sex in the future, it will happen?

When you say "are going to have sex," it is implying that we have not had sex yet.

Keep it in the present as if it is happening right now.

Ken · Post by **Ken** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 11:52 am

Well, if your work sux and you have no reasonable way to correct that, try kicking your home life up a couple of notches to help balance out your life...

Having a companion will often help out... When you get off work, maybe head to the mall, grocery store, hair salon (you have no idea how many I have met and had relations with after meeting them in a salon...), get a mani/pedi, go someplace that involves something you like so you will have mutual interests and something to talk about (hobby store, model trains, RC cars, coin/stamp shop, camping/sporting goods store, etc.), and just start talking to people... Talk to girls that you are not even interested in to help develop your skills as you will have no inhibitions with them... Play dumb in the grocery store and ask some females what they suggest for preparing this, how they do that, what wine goes with... "Oh, that sounds cool, if only I had you to show me, perhaps you could find the goodness in your heart to help a brother out"... blah, blah, blah... (Watch for the magic ring and avoid the married kind...)

You will be surprised what can come your way when you start a convo, make a funny, etc... Trust me, it works...

If you go through life waiting for a mate to approach you, you will most likely have a long and lonely wait, which will most definitely affect the other aspects of your life...

No fear, dude! Besides, they have to kill you before they can eat you,...and, in truth...being eaten isn't so bad...

Now, go get'em tiger!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Debbie · Post by **Debbie** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 3:26 pm

Ken wrote:..and, in truth...being eaten isn't so bad... Now, go get'em tiger!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 8:47 pm

CableDude wrote:I just can't believe how I let people's actions "get to me"

*shakes head

I was not referring to anyone on here, It's the morons in real life that I continue to allow to bring me down.

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 8:48 pm

Ken wrote:Well, if your work sux and you have no reasonable way to correct that, try kicking your home life up a couple of notches to help balance out your life...

Having a companion will often help out... When you get off work, maybe head to the mall, grocery store, hair salon (you have no idea how many I have met and had relations with after meeting them in a salon...), get a mani/pedi, go someplace that involves something you like so you will have mutual interests and something to talk about (hobby store, model trains, RC cars, coin/stamp shop, camping/sporting goods store, etc.), and just start talking to people... Talk to girls that you are not even interested in to help develop your skills as you will have no inhibitions with them... Play dumb in the grocery store and ask some females what they suggest for preparing this, how they do that, what wine goes with... "Oh, that sounds cool, if only I had you to show me, perhaps you could find the goodness in your heart to help a brother out"... blah, blah, blah... (Watch for the magic ring and avoid the married kind...)

You will be surprised what can come your way when you start a convo, make a funny, etc... Trust me, it works... If you go through life waiting for a mate to approach you, you will most likely have a long and lonely wait, which will most definitely affect the other aspects of your life...

No fear, dude! Besides, they have to kill you before they can eat you,...and, in truth...being eaten isn't so bad... Now, go get'em tiger!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's part of the problem. Not having anyone.

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 9:04 pm

CableDude wrote: That's part of the problem. Not having anyone.

You need a girl friend who's last name doesn't end in .jpg.

Of course if that happens, it might just make the job appear or even become a safe harbor.

CableDude · Post by **CableDude** » Thu Feb 10, 2011 9:20 pm

I will say the dialogue between us was very limited today. Glad it is not an 8 hour day with this person. I'm getting over it pretty fast. 4 days apart will help.

I have others that work for me that I do enjoy working with and that should help too. And I have the mindset that I will not be around this place much longer.

Biggest mistake was not walking out 4 years ago this month.

blebs · Post by **blebs** » Fri Feb 11, 2011 9:20 am

Definately don't leave without securing something else first.

Ken · Post by **Ken** » Sat Feb 12, 2011 12:09 pm

CableDude wrote: That's part of the problem. Not having anyone.

I sorta figured that out and that was why I typed you some ideas on meeting some...

Post by **YeOldeStonecat** » Sat Feb 12, 2011 12:38 pm

I didn't see your application when we were reviewing them yesterday. We ran an ad in the paper last Sunday..just one ad. Got about 30 resumes so far. Starting interviews this week.

MissTynker2 · Post by **MissTynker2** » Mon Feb 14, 2011 12:33 am

CableDude wrote:I would fail instantly.

Don't quit when the tide is lowest, For it's just about to turn
Don't quit over doubt's and questions, For there's something you may learn.
Don't quit when the night is darkest, For its just a while 'til dawn.
Don't quit when you've run the farthest, For the race is almost won.
Don't quit when the hill is steepest, For your goal is almost nigh
Don't quit, for you're not a failure,
Unit you fail to try!!

by Jill Wolf