i want to tell all of you that sometimes i get a little wound too tight. i have always been wound tight but usually it does not show unless i am pushed to that point. the way i have grown up i have learned that for the most part you need to have your gaurd up most of the times and with me it is just about all the time. when i get a little haty toward people it is because i feel i am pushed and i am quick to puch back. the past few years i have learned to try to think before acting and i have for the most part been good about it. i want to apologize to anyone i have offended with, as yos put it "my tuff guy act". as i said though it is not an act, it is me. in my older years i have niether the time or patience for people who like to purposely push buttons and i am quick to let them know that. to me, if they do something that they know will have certain effects then i dont feel sorry for the consequences that they get due to they knew it would happen.
anyway, there are a lot of respectable people on here and those people i have no quarrel with and respect a lot.
anyway, i will try to tone it down and keep my head as i know that those people who push the buttons are really not worth it. in my eyes though, those are the people thinking they can walk through life and treat anybody anyway they want. sooner or later they will come up against someone like me and have to answer for their button pushing.
thanks for listening and thanks for the good advice on different issues i have brought here.
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Gixxer,
I agree with the fact that once a person knows they are pushing your buttons and they get a reaction out of you...they continue to do it. It is almost sadistic in a way.
But, being involved in self-development, I have learned that if a person can easily push our emotional buttons, there is some type of inner turmoil that needs to be addressed. The anger is already there before the button pusher started in the first place.
I have had my buttons pushed several times from peeps in this forum. Yeah, I got pissed off. After a while, I sat back and did some inner looking to see why I "reacted" to the "event." That is the only way to see what needs to be addressed.
Once you know what it is, it is personal choice on whether or not you want to resolve the issue.
I agree with the fact that once a person knows they are pushing your buttons and they get a reaction out of you...they continue to do it. It is almost sadistic in a way.
But, being involved in self-development, I have learned that if a person can easily push our emotional buttons, there is some type of inner turmoil that needs to be addressed. The anger is already there before the button pusher started in the first place.
I have had my buttons pushed several times from peeps in this forum. Yeah, I got pissed off. After a while, I sat back and did some inner looking to see why I "reacted" to the "event." That is the only way to see what needs to be addressed.
Once you know what it is, it is personal choice on whether or not you want to resolve the issue.
thanks ... i know i have anger, but what is wierd is i really never ever get mad until somebody gets me there ... which in some cases does not take longDebbie wrote:Gixxer,
I agree with the fact that once a person knows they are pushing your buttons and they get a reaction out of you...they continue to do it. It is almost sadistic in a way.
But, being involved in self-development, I have learned that if a person can easily push our emotional buttons, there is some type of inner turmoil that needs to be addressed. The anger is already there before the button pusher started in the first place.
I have had my buttons pushed several times from peeps in this forum. Yeah, I got pissed off. After a while, I sat back and did some inner looking to see why I "reacted" to the "event." That is the only way to see what needs to be addressed.
Once you know what it is, it is personal choice on whether or not you want to resolve the issue.
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You will win when you have control of your self, no one has the power to get you angry, you must give that power away. In other words,(just an example) I don't get you angry, you let me get you angry. When you stop giving that control away you win. Pretty simple actually.Gixxer wrote:thanks ... i know i have anger, but what is wierd is i really never ever get mad until somebody gets me there ... which in some cases does not take long
I agree with the giving away your power thing lefty, but I also feel when there is suppressed anger, it doesn't take much to loose control. Once understood, a person can claim back their power.Lefty wrote:You will win when you have control of your self, no one has the power to get you angry, you must give that power away. In other words,(just an example) I don't get you angry, you let me get you angry. When you stop giving that control away you win. Pretty simple actually.
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Lefty wrote:You will win when you have control of your self, no one has the power to get you angry, you must give that power away. In other words,(just an example) I don't get you angry, you let me get you angry. When you stop giving that control away you win. Pretty simple actually.
i do let people get me mad ... but i guess to me that if they are looking for something then should get something
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The easiest way to keep a small fire from becoming an inferno is to remove the fuel.
Example: Goin all internet macho-man RAWR!! is one if not THE best way to whip up arseholes like myself into a feeding frenzy.
I don't know what it is about confrontation that lights up the cerebellum so, but humans certainly love mixing it up. I'm putting my money on the fight or flight response, it's a dandy response to truly critical situations. I.E. person with a firearm, claymore, nuke. Run or fight, as your existance depends on it. When confronted with a situation that can be handled with soild reasoning and a deductive though process the fight or flight reaction merely interferes with logical analysis. Learn to assess the situation some rather than dive in head first with a blade between yer teeth and bloodlust in your eyes.
Example: Goin all internet macho-man RAWR!! is one if not THE best way to whip up arseholes like myself into a feeding frenzy.
I don't know what it is about confrontation that lights up the cerebellum so, but humans certainly love mixing it up. I'm putting my money on the fight or flight response, it's a dandy response to truly critical situations. I.E. person with a firearm, claymore, nuke. Run or fight, as your existance depends on it. When confronted with a situation that can be handled with soild reasoning and a deductive though process the fight or flight reaction merely interferes with logical analysis. Learn to assess the situation some rather than dive in head first with a blade between yer teeth and bloodlust in your eyes.
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I gave Miss Manners a Dirty Sanchez, and she LIKED it.
Gixxer,Gixxer wrote:i want to tell all of you that sometimes i get a little wound too tight. i have always been wound tight but usually it does not show unless i am pushed to that point. the way i have grown up i have learned that for the most part you need to have your gaurd up most of the times and with me it is just about all the time. when i get a little haty toward people it is because i feel i am pushed and i am quick to puch back. the past few years i have learned to try to think before acting and i have for the most part been good about it. i want to apologize to anyone i have offended with, as yos put it "my tuff guy act". as i said though it is not an act, it is me. in my older years i have niether the time or patience for people who like to purposely push buttons and i am quick to let them know that. to me, if they do something that they know will have certain effects then i dont feel sorry for the consequences that they get due to they knew it would happen.
anyway, there are a lot of respectable people on here and those people i have no quarrel with and respect a lot.
anyway, i will try to tone it down and keep my head as i know that those people who push the buttons are really not worth it. in my eyes though, those are the people thinking they can walk through life and treat anybody anyway they want. sooner or later they will come up against someone like me and have to answer for their button pushing.
thanks for listening and thanks for the good advice on different issues i have brought here.
Want to wish you and your family a happy and great New Year, i read through your previous post and i honestly set back and thought so much about it.
We do not know each other but i feel we are almost identical, i am like you my tollerance level is so low that i will blow up at the slightest thing.
As most of everybody knows i have been over here going on 4 years, yes that is a long time some of you know the reason and others i hope will get to learn the reason once i make my final decision to get back home.
Back on topic, Gix; i hope i can call you that?
My recomendation would be to ask the MOD's to pull all you said before.
1. You really have hurt yourself hinting to what your daughter went through and what you wanted to find out as the truth. "Yes any good parent would be in distress over that and would do anything to find the truth".
2. The other being the great ole Internet that "Al Gore invented" that is to make you laugh and relax to my thoughts.
a. Even if the 17 year old's lawyers do not find out about what you stated in your posts your precious daughter will have more of a chance finding it in searches during her growth in life. What i am saying is think about asking the MOD's to place it in the recycle bin for your precious daughters benifit.
3. You have many friends here in SG that you can confide in and talk to, hopefully soon i can share what limited perspective in life i have once i hang it up here.
Buddy you are hurting as any grown father would be and you want justice, sit back take a deep breath and think about all you have said here not for you but for your precious daughter.
Would love to call you on the phone and speak with you right now as i am better at speaking then typing what words i want to say, if you feel you need to contact me please ask JCOS, Ken or Phillip for my contact details and you can call me collect here.
Your daughter is precious and so are you just remember that, life is iternal and she will always remember every step you take in her younger years.
Baghdaddy,
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Gixxer,
Lost signal so glad to speak with you, yes you are identical to me 100%.
So glad to speak with you and we both agree on things in life, like i said on the phone i am available always 24/7 no matter what.
Remember think of your precious daughter and wife right now, as i know you are like me and we will be ok.
Check your PM and you will get a phone call later from me in the week to just check in with you.
Cheers buddy,
Baghdaddy,
De Oppresso Liber
Lost signal so glad to speak with you, yes you are identical to me 100%.
So glad to speak with you and we both agree on things in life, like i said on the phone i am available always 24/7 no matter what.
Remember think of your precious daughter and wife right now, as i know you are like me and we will be ok.
Check your PM and you will get a phone call later from me in the week to just check in with you.
Cheers buddy,
Baghdaddy,
De Oppresso Liber
BaghDaddy wrote:Gixxer,
Lost signal so glad to speak with you, yes you are identical to me 100%.
So glad to speak with you and we both agree on things in life, like i said on the phone i am available always 24/7 no matter what.
Remember think of your precious daughter and wife right now, as i know you are like me and we will be ok.
Check your PM and you will get a phone call later from me in the week to just check in with you.
Cheers buddy,
Baghdaddy,
De Oppresso Liber
DITTO ... i had to leave after signal dropped because my daughter called and told me that she had left my wifes dog outside all day today ... i got home and she was not a popsicle so i think she will be fine ... ironically my wife was already had appt with the vet tonight so will have her looked to be sure
a.k.a. GSXR 750
Debbie wrote:Gixxer,
I agree with the fact that once a person knows they are pushing your buttons and they get a reaction out of you...they continue to do it. It is almost sadistic in a way.
But, being involved in self-development, I have learned that if a person can easily push our emotional buttons, there is some type of inner turmoil that needs to be addressed. The anger is already there before the button pusher started in the first place.
I have had my buttons pushed several times from peeps in this forum. Yeah, I got pissed off. After a while, I sat back and did some inner looking to see why I "reacted" to the "event." That is the only way to see what needs to be addressed.
Once you know what it is, it is personal choice on whether or not you want to resolve the issue.
Lefty wrote:You will win when you have control of your self, no one has the power to get you angry, you must give that power away. In other words,(just an example) I don't get you angry, you let me get you angry. When you stop giving that control away you win. Pretty simple actually.
Some good stuff here that I will read again.brembo wrote:The easiest way to keep a small fire from becoming an inferno is to remove the fuel.
Example: Goin all internet macho-man RAWR!! is one if not THE best way to whip up arseholes like myself into a feeding frenzy.
I don't know what it is about confrontation that lights up the cerebellum so, but humans certainly love mixing it up. I'm putting my money on the fight or flight response, it's a dandy response to truly critical situations. I.E. person with a firearm, claymore, nuke. Run or fight, as your existance depends on it. When confronted with a situation that can be handled with soild reasoning and a deductive though process the fight or flight reaction merely interferes with logical analysis. Learn to assess the situation some rather than dive in head first with a blade between yer teeth and bloodlust in your eyes.
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Im with ya man, I had the same problem, and some people pointed it out here like YOS and I have soince changed it. It is so much better now.Gixxer wrote:i want to tell all of you that sometimes i get a little wound too tight. i have always been wound tight but usually it does not show unless i am pushed to that point. the way i have grown up i have learned that for the most part you need to have your gaurd up most of the times and with me it is just about all the time. when i get a little haty toward people it is because i feel i am pushed and i am quick to puch back. the past few years i have learned to try to think before acting and i have for the most part been good about it. i want to apologize to anyone i have offended with, as yos put it "my tuff guy act". as i said though it is not an act, it is me. in my older years i have niether the time or patience for people who like to purposely push buttons and i am quick to let them know that. to me, if they do something that they know will have certain effects then i dont feel sorry for the consequences that they get due to they knew it would happen.
anyway, there are a lot of respectable people on here and those people i have no quarrel with and respect a lot.
anyway, i will try to tone it down and keep my head as i know that those people who push the buttons are really not worth it. in my eyes though, those are the people thinking they can walk through life and treat anybody anyway they want. sooner or later they will come up against someone like me and have to answer for their button pushing.
thanks for listening and thanks for the good advice on different issues i have brought here.
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Spammy wrote:Im with ya man, I had the same problem, and some people pointed it out here like YOS and I have soince changed it. It is so much better now.
trying to analyze and then change ... but like i said when you have been one way your whole life it is like another job trying to swtich
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Hey man I have struggled with it for years. It is not an overnight change by any means.Gixxer wrote:trying to analyze and then change ... but like i said when you have been one way your whole life it is like another job trying to swtich
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you're talking about changing how you react to outside stimuli on an instinctive or sub-conscious level.Gixxer wrote:trying to analyze and then change ... but like i said when you have been one way your whole life it is like another job trying to swtich
Bro, it won't be easy. It takes time. It's a constant battle for me.
I've been trying the walk away from the source of irritation response as much as possible... maybe try it?
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Hang in there Gixxer! There are indeed some fantastic people here...most of them are encouraging, helpful and willing to listen. As with the real world, however, some prefer the thrill of pushing buttons, upsetting the apple cart, turning the thread, topic or whatever into their own little attention thing, which is sad but...it happens. Pull what you need from whom you need here that helps you Gixxer, and pitch the rest. You don't have time to placate the drama queens, nor the pot stirrers...stick with the winners my friend...we have more of those here than not...thank goodness!! 
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The mind has to be conditioned... it takes patience and will.CableDude wrote:That's the problem.
There's no easy road for young grasshopper in this matter...
I've been working on the ignoring and walking away... for several years.
still needs work! lol!
perhaps some study of bruce lee might be beneficial. His martial arts technique was based on instinctively reacting to his opponent... which required mental conditioning on the part of his students...
It's been over 20 years... but I suppose I could recommend some books.
I'm starting to trip... just remembered what I used to be like... and what I'm like now. Damn, I've gotten awful soft mentally
It's all that friggin girl's fault! LOL! Makin me all goofy in the head and chit...
I wish I could explain it away that easily....
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At work, in forums, in poetry classes, everywhere!