Haha, Ok guys, This is funny.
Ok, as most of u know i am only 14yrs old ( gr.8 ). Well at my school, im preety popular with the girls. ( Most of them dont know im a geek ) Anyway, everyday my mom pics me up from school everyday. And she is usually there about 15 mins after the bell. So i am usually outside waiting for her, and usually lots of girls around me. Anyway, my mom has this thing, like for example my mom does not want me to goto dances as she thinks that they are just bad, and not appropriate for me.
But i have ways of getting around that, so its not a big deal. But 1 thing that TOTALLY ticks her, is when girls hug me, caus she thinks it 2 revealing as when they hug u, the whole thing with girls getting to close and stuff. So after school, when she comes I say buy to the girls and like tons want 2 give me a hug. So im like giving out hugs, and my mom, LOL, i look over at the car and she is like going crazy in there. Her face is like going red, and the is like so ticked, u can totally see it on her face.
I think this is so stupid. Like she wont let me goto movies, dances, date girls, or anything. But it is so tempting... So i go behind her back and goto the parties and dances. I dont want to but there is no other way. Like all the girls ask me to goto parties, and i have to say no. And they ask why, and i say well my mom wont let me. Like she is so overprotective, i cant stand it.
What do you guys think. I try talking to her about it, and she just says all this stuff, on how i will appreciate it when i get older and stuff.
Sorry, this post was supposed to be kynda funny with what she does, but i need some help, and i got into it, and i had to finish it.
Thanks Guys
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So how is it that you have a gorgeous girlfriend if your Mom is so anal? Not that I doubt you, but how do you get around her nosiness? Keep the relationship at school only?
About your problem, and it certainly is a problem, is your Mom religious? Is that where this is coming from? Or does she have another reason for thinking the way she does? Have you done something that would make her not trust you? Is that why she picks you up from school instead of letting you ride home on the bus?
Sorry for all the questions, it's just to help the angle of attack, so to speak.
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About your problem, and it certainly is a problem, is your Mom religious? Is that where this is coming from? Or does she have another reason for thinking the way she does? Have you done something that would make her not trust you? Is that why she picks you up from school instead of letting you ride home on the bus?
Sorry for all the questions, it's just to help the angle of attack, so to speak.
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Ur right
Well,
1 thing, for some reason is that my mom lets me talk on the phone with girls. But, i have to tell them to stop calling me. caus if i leave for the day, my mom just unplugs all the phones in the house caus she cant stand the phone, she says " it gives her headaches ". Lol, You Should see the call display, thats crazy.
My Mom is christian, thats where she gets it from. She is really not that nosy, she just tells me, and hopes i will obey her. And i used to, when i was younger, caus u know, she is my mom, but now that i am in highschool, i think its crazy and i hate it, so i have to go around her, and im preety good at it.
My dad on the other hand, He is preety cool! He lets my do lots of stuff. He does not really care about girls, as long as my grades do not suffer.
And its not that she does not trust me, she is worried something will happen to me. She wants me to be this perfect kid, and i dont like it, and im not going to be the "perfect kid". I am not an only child, i have 2 younger sisters. And im sure that is why she pics me up, btw i live like 5mins away from the school. Lol, she is really overprotective!
1 thing, for some reason is that my mom lets me talk on the phone with girls. But, i have to tell them to stop calling me. caus if i leave for the day, my mom just unplugs all the phones in the house caus she cant stand the phone, she says " it gives her headaches ". Lol, You Should see the call display, thats crazy.
My Mom is christian, thats where she gets it from. She is really not that nosy, she just tells me, and hopes i will obey her. And i used to, when i was younger, caus u know, she is my mom, but now that i am in highschool, i think its crazy and i hate it, so i have to go around her, and im preety good at it.
My dad on the other hand, He is preety cool! He lets my do lots of stuff. He does not really care about girls, as long as my grades do not suffer.
And its not that she does not trust me, she is worried something will happen to me. She wants me to be this perfect kid, and i dont like it, and im not going to be the "perfect kid". I am not an only child, i have 2 younger sisters. And im sure that is why she pics me up, btw i live like 5mins away from the school. Lol, she is really overprotective!
Whoah thats crazy, she flips and gets made from a hug! 
But your young, and I can kinda see your moms point of view worried about the sexual part I guess.
But huggs are nuttin, hell I hug my mom all the time
But your young, and I can kinda see your moms point of view worried about the sexual part I guess.
But huggs are nuttin, hell I hug my mom all the time
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HEHE if you really want to put a bee in her bonet you should just walk home from school one day just to prove a point.....be honest with her....tell her that your not 10 years old anymore, but becarefull how you say it to her..sit down with your mom and dad and tell them what you think
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Kewlmatt as a mom to a thirteen years old son, I can imagine that she is just worried about you, she does not want you to get caught up with the wrong type of girls, as a mother I see that my son is getting older and is now at the age were Boobs are of interest to him and that scares me. We have had the sex talk and all that but he is curios about girls and sex and I know that. I worry that at such a young age that he could get himself in trouble, diseased, or just form a bad view of women. I also worry about him being away from me, you guys have been our baby's for the last 13 years, we have made all the choices in your lives for you and to have you go out to partys and dances we have to trust that what we have taught you has sunk in. Sometimes it is just hard to let go.....
Don't give your mom any reason to not trust you, talk to her and try to make her realize that she has no reason to worry, ask her to trust you to go to the dance for 2 hours or so and be back in 2 hours, take it a little at a time but if she will not budge, obey her rules, once you lose trust it is VERY hard to get back....
Don't give your mom any reason to not trust you, talk to her and try to make her realize that she has no reason to worry, ask her to trust you to go to the dance for 2 hours or so and be back in 2 hours, take it a little at a time but if she will not budge, obey her rules, once you lose trust it is VERY hard to get back....
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wow as a fellow high school guy all I can say is CAPITOLIZE! my dad is really anal when it comes to stuff like that (just the opposite of your household) and I just tell my mom I'm going out and never tell my dad and hope to god he doesn't find out. just don't hug girls in front of her or do other stuff in front of her and lie as much as you can without being dumb, thats about all you can do, but good luck with the ladies!
try to talk to her at first like mouse said, sit down and tell her mom you've brought me up well, i have learned from you and I know right from wrong, and don't tell her but ask her mom I think i'm ready to start doing things like dances and dates etc... so I'm asking can i try it, just one time, i will only be gone x amount of hours and you can drop me off and pick me up too, i just want to show you how good i actually am and that i am maturing....
ya know talk to her like that and mean it, and be back exactly at x amount of hours etc...
trust is 2 way
if the talking don't work, then just play by her rules for a while, and start showing her you are more mature in the things you do and she will start trusting you with more stuff as time goes on, it may be a long process though, as you get older it will get better with her as long as you don't break the tie with her, after all she is your mom...
hell this Girl I know her parents are so protective get this, she is JUST NOW at 18 years old learning how to drive a car!!!!!!!!!!!! She has her permit now i think, but it's going to be a long while till she has her actual licence and she is 18 years old!!!!!! She is also home schooled, her parents are SOOOOOOOOOOO overprotective it's scary and she knows it, in fact she's the wild one in the family lol......
ya know talk to her like that and mean it, and be back exactly at x amount of hours etc...
trust is 2 way
if the talking don't work, then just play by her rules for a while, and start showing her you are more mature in the things you do and she will start trusting you with more stuff as time goes on, it may be a long process though, as you get older it will get better with her as long as you don't break the tie with her, after all she is your mom...
hell this Girl I know her parents are so protective get this, she is JUST NOW at 18 years old learning how to drive a car!!!!!!!!!!!! She has her permit now i think, but it's going to be a long while till she has her actual licence and she is 18 years old!!!!!! She is also home schooled, her parents are SOOOOOOOOOOO overprotective it's scary and she knows it, in fact she's the wild one in the family lol......
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Hmmmm.....I can see that she's going to shave your "coolness" factor soon if she keeps this up. Gotta be cool around the ladies, right?
When I was 14 my Dad gave me a box of Trojans and said, "I know you're at that age now where you're into the girls, so I got you these." <tossed them into my lap, we were in the car at the time> "Now I'm not saying for you to go out and use 'em, but just in case you need some."
Man, I thought, "What a cool move, Pop!" I was really taken aback by the whole thing, and managed to mutter out a thank you. Boy, I was proud. Here I was, just 14, and I have my own box of rubbers. Don't think I didn't go tell my buddies either, they couldn't believe it. "Man, what a cool dad!" was all I heard. I beamed.
Sorry, I had a flashback. About your problem....I think that if you continue going behind her back, eventually she'll catch you, and that will give her a REAL reason to justify her behavior. The way I would approach it would be to talk to your Dad about it and let him know how you feel about what she's doing, that it makes you feel smothered and immature, and how it could possible affect your "status" in school. Kids are mean, and if word gets out that you're a "momma's boy," you're sunk. He'll understand, every dad wants his boy to smart, good with the ladies, good at sports.....EVERYTHING! I know, I am one!
I know that all this talk of status and such is superficial, and real friends, if they're friends at all, wouldn't care, but you and I both know that that's not the way it works. High school is totally different from college in that respect. In college, you are what you are and all that petty high school stuff goes out the window, especially at a big college. But in high school, kids are getting at that age where they're growing into their adult bodies (and you know what THAT means) but still have a ways to go in the brain department, so there's that pressure to be cool, look good, be popular with the opposite sex, 'cause no one gives a crap if you're an a$$hole or not--just look at who the cheerleaders are dating, right? LOL!! [The sad part is, I dated a lot of cheerleaders in HS.]
My point to all of this is that I understand that this is important to you....enough so, that you were thinking about it enough to post your thread to this board. Good for you to seek advice. Now, go talk to your Dad and see if he can leverage your Mom to ease up a bit. But don't do anything to make them distrust you, or else you'll have a real problem!
ghost
When I was 14 my Dad gave me a box of Trojans and said, "I know you're at that age now where you're into the girls, so I got you these." <tossed them into my lap, we were in the car at the time> "Now I'm not saying for you to go out and use 'em, but just in case you need some."
Man, I thought, "What a cool move, Pop!" I was really taken aback by the whole thing, and managed to mutter out a thank you. Boy, I was proud. Here I was, just 14, and I have my own box of rubbers. Don't think I didn't go tell my buddies either, they couldn't believe it. "Man, what a cool dad!" was all I heard. I beamed.
Sorry, I had a flashback. About your problem....I think that if you continue going behind her back, eventually she'll catch you, and that will give her a REAL reason to justify her behavior. The way I would approach it would be to talk to your Dad about it and let him know how you feel about what she's doing, that it makes you feel smothered and immature, and how it could possible affect your "status" in school. Kids are mean, and if word gets out that you're a "momma's boy," you're sunk. He'll understand, every dad wants his boy to smart, good with the ladies, good at sports.....EVERYTHING! I know, I am one!
I know that all this talk of status and such is superficial, and real friends, if they're friends at all, wouldn't care, but you and I both know that that's not the way it works. High school is totally different from college in that respect. In college, you are what you are and all that petty high school stuff goes out the window, especially at a big college. But in high school, kids are getting at that age where they're growing into their adult bodies (and you know what THAT means) but still have a ways to go in the brain department, so there's that pressure to be cool, look good, be popular with the opposite sex, 'cause no one gives a crap if you're an a$$hole or not--just look at who the cheerleaders are dating, right? LOL!! [The sad part is, I dated a lot of cheerleaders in HS.]
My point to all of this is that I understand that this is important to you....enough so, that you were thinking about it enough to post your thread to this board. Good for you to seek advice.
Now, go talk to your Dad and see if he can leverage your Mom to ease up a bit. But don't do anything to make them distrust you, or else you'll have a real problem!ghost
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HEy Guys,
Some of you may have taken my mom the wrong way. She is really very overprotective, but besides that, she is really nice. Like literally anything i want i get. When she has an eye on me, she is really nice.
CoolJ, My mom flips, beacause of the boob thing. Like its ok if i hug her, because she is my mom. I can see it to, girls press themselves agains me, and my mom can see it, it is very ovbious. That is what ticks her.
Crestbane, my mom is christian, i found out why she is so overprotective, caus when she was younger, she was not a christian... and she did some bad stuff. Now she is a mom, and a christian, and she knows what its like, and she does not want me to mess up my life. The funny thing is that my mom is christian, and she is overprotective, and my dad is catholic, and he dont care. I goto a catholic school, Its amazing, how our school is one of the worst schools. Not in like a scum school, and all that. Its a good school, its just the teens. I see it as catholics have many rules, and the kids dont want to listen to them, so they try harder and harder to not listen to them. Our dances were so bad that they banned them. Like grade 8's were getting stoned, and drunk and taking tons of drugs.
nightowl, I have walked home before, the main reason that she does not want me to walk home is that she can keep an eye on my from school to home, and not that i may do something. Like if it was not after school, i could walk all i want, Im preety strong as i weightlift, and i can take on grade 10-11. Its not a big deal about that. its just the girls, that they will do something while she is not there.
mouse, hi. Yes, i know she is worried about me.. that is the main reason for all this. I think i am maby growing up to fast for her, and it is happing all so fast. She does not want to let me go. She had the sex talk with me, I understand all that stuff, and its new to me, so i guess im interested in how it works and stuff. But at school, the teach you most of that, but my mom told me most if it before the school. When i argue sometime with my mom, she wonders if she has brought me up right. But my mom, has dedicated her life to us kids, I know she loves us, just by how much time she dedicated to us, spending time with us, just being there. I have really done nothing to loose her trust, and i try hard not to, i think i just need to talk to her a bit more, and be more serious about it.
Thanks Guys
matt
Some of you may have taken my mom the wrong way. She is really very overprotective, but besides that, she is really nice. Like literally anything i want i get. When she has an eye on me, she is really nice.
CoolJ, My mom flips, beacause of the boob thing. Like its ok if i hug her, because she is my mom. I can see it to, girls press themselves agains me, and my mom can see it, it is very ovbious. That is what ticks her.
Crestbane, my mom is christian, i found out why she is so overprotective, caus when she was younger, she was not a christian... and she did some bad stuff. Now she is a mom, and a christian, and she knows what its like, and she does not want me to mess up my life. The funny thing is that my mom is christian, and she is overprotective, and my dad is catholic, and he dont care. I goto a catholic school, Its amazing, how our school is one of the worst schools. Not in like a scum school, and all that. Its a good school, its just the teens. I see it as catholics have many rules, and the kids dont want to listen to them, so they try harder and harder to not listen to them. Our dances were so bad that they banned them. Like grade 8's were getting stoned, and drunk and taking tons of drugs.
nightowl, I have walked home before, the main reason that she does not want me to walk home is that she can keep an eye on my from school to home, and not that i may do something. Like if it was not after school, i could walk all i want, Im preety strong as i weightlift, and i can take on grade 10-11. Its not a big deal about that. its just the girls, that they will do something while she is not there.
mouse, hi. Yes, i know she is worried about me.. that is the main reason for all this. I think i am maby growing up to fast for her, and it is happing all so fast. She does not want to let me go. She had the sex talk with me, I understand all that stuff, and its new to me, so i guess im interested in how it works and stuff. But at school, the teach you most of that, but my mom told me most if it before the school. When i argue sometime with my mom, she wonders if she has brought me up right. But my mom, has dedicated her life to us kids, I know she loves us, just by how much time she dedicated to us, spending time with us, just being there. I have really done nothing to loose her trust, and i try hard not to, i think i just need to talk to her a bit more, and be more serious about it.
Thanks Guys
matt
Catholic girls ROCK!
I went to Catholic grade school and high school.
They are the worst women ever! I can see why your Mom is scared. If she lets one of them get a hold of you, it's all over!
FunK
I went to Catholic grade school and high school.
They are the worst women ever! I can see why your Mom is scared. If she lets one of them get a hold of you, it's all over!
FunK
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Hehe
Hey Guys,
Again.. Lol, I think im getting better at typing, just for this post :P
striderf1: hehe, i feel sorry 4 u. If your dad catches you, what would he do 2 u?
Brent, U know i have never really told her that. That she has brought me up right, i think i may be missing that. Just remembered one thing. A couple of times i remember her saying that, " its not you im worried about, its the girls" I think she is worried about the girls, as we all know how tempting girls can be, thats what i believe she is worried about. I might ask her to come to one of the dances, so she can see what im like ( that will be preety hard ) But she has seen it all, its just hard, u know, who wants there parents at a dance watching you ? Thanks Buddy.
Ghost Ooh my, My fingers are starting to hurt,. hehe. Lol, I know, if my mom keeps it up, my rep goes down. But i know that the girls will mostly like me most of the time, because of the looks. Like Doh, thats what girls look for in guys, and guys look for in girls. I dunno about my dad, and the trojan thing, ur preety lucky there, if my dad did that, id be like totally scared. hehe. I am preety good at school. I maintain a B, and A average. But for the last term, my marks fell, and fell bad! So i typed out marks, and taped them onto my report card, and i was in the photocopy room, and copying them, and i told this 1 guys what i was doing, b/c he asked me. And i told him, and he said that it was no smart, caus heh said it will catch up with me someday. I was worried caus my dad, he gets mad if i do bad in school. Considering that iv had a B and A average for most of the school life, and when my marks drop like that, he gets ticked. But i gave him my report card, normal, and i sat down and talked to him, and he was not mad, he just wanted to know what was going on. And thats true about the highschool thing, and collenge thing, how it works, its neat actually.
Again.. Lol, I think im getting better at typing, just for this post :P
striderf1: hehe, i feel sorry 4 u. If your dad catches you, what would he do 2 u?
Brent, U know i have never really told her that. That she has brought me up right, i think i may be missing that. Just remembered one thing. A couple of times i remember her saying that, " its not you im worried about, its the girls" I think she is worried about the girls, as we all know how tempting girls can be, thats what i believe she is worried about. I might ask her to come to one of the dances, so she can see what im like ( that will be preety hard ) But she has seen it all, its just hard, u know, who wants there parents at a dance watching you ? Thanks Buddy.
Ghost Ooh my, My fingers are starting to hurt,. hehe. Lol, I know, if my mom keeps it up, my rep goes down. But i know that the girls will mostly like me most of the time, because of the looks. Like Doh, thats what girls look for in guys, and guys look for in girls. I dunno about my dad, and the trojan thing, ur preety lucky there, if my dad did that, id be like totally scared. hehe. I am preety good at school. I maintain a B, and A average. But for the last term, my marks fell, and fell bad! So i typed out marks, and taped them onto my report card, and i was in the photocopy room, and copying them, and i told this 1 guys what i was doing, b/c he asked me. And i told him, and he said that it was no smart, caus heh said it will catch up with me someday. I was worried caus my dad, he gets mad if i do bad in school. Considering that iv had a B and A average for most of the school life, and when my marks drop like that, he gets ticked. But i gave him my report card, normal, and i sat down and talked to him, and he was not mad, he just wanted to know what was going on. And thats true about the highschool thing, and collenge thing, how it works, its neat actually.
Kewlmatt just keep reminding her that you are growing up and that she can trust you to make good choices. My son sometimes has to remind that, he tell's me "Mom if you are not letting me go with my freinds because you are afraid that I will smoke or cuss or get into trouble, then you better not let me go to school anymore because I deal with that stuff everyday" He reminds that he is old enough to make good choices and that I must trust him and let go a little. We don't mean to smother you, we just love you guy's and the guy's on the board have the right idea, recruit your father to help ease her into the idea.
and the guy's on the board have the right idea, recruit your father to help ease her into the idea."By replying to you, I acknowledge that you exist. By Ignoring you, I am mearly saying that you are not worthy of breathing."
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I don't want to find outOriginally posted by kewlmatt13
Hey Guys,
Again.. Lol, I think im getting better at typing, just for this post :P
striderf1: hehe, i feel sorry 4 u. If your dad catches you, what would he do 2 u?
so i've only gone out 1 time in the last 2 years (yea...seriously), and I just got my licence (super super protective dad, I've been 16 for a couple months and I only got my permit about a month ago) so I'll probably wait a while (at leaste 6 months) till my dad lets me drive by myself and then I might start going out, but I seriously don't want to know what would happen if he cought me going out when he said I couldn't.
i just got my full licence and i'm 21!!!!!......but thats cause i couldn't really afford it till nowOriginally posted by Brent
hell this Girl I know her parents are so protective get this, she is JUST NOW at 18 years old learning how to drive a car!!!!!!!!!!!! She has her permit now i think, but it's going to be a long while till she has her actual licence and she is 18 years old!!!!!!
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Haha,
catholic school, Man its crazy. The girls rule! Hehe. OK this is funny...
For elementry school, i went to a catholic school. Now that i am in highschool, and i went back to my elementry school for a visit i noticed something. In elementry school, for the girls the goal is to keep the skirt as low as possible, so that no leg is showing at all. In highschool (atleast mine) the goal is to get your skirt as high as it will go, until the teachers tell you to put it down. Lol, my mom says ' She dont know how guys stay clean" and i often have to remind her, ' They Dont ".
Thanks guys so much for your help, now i know what to say to my mom, and hopefully she will let up, i will let you guys know what happens, thanks !
Matt
catholic school, Man its crazy. The girls rule! Hehe. OK this is funny...
For elementry school, i went to a catholic school. Now that i am in highschool, and i went back to my elementry school for a visit i noticed something. In elementry school, for the girls the goal is to keep the skirt as low as possible, so that no leg is showing at all. In highschool (atleast mine) the goal is to get your skirt as high as it will go, until the teachers tell you to put it down. Lol, my mom says ' She dont know how guys stay clean" and i often have to remind her, ' They Dont ".
Thanks guys so much for your help, now i know what to say to my mom, and hopefully she will let up, i will let you guys know what happens, thanks !Matt