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I have been in a relationship with the person I have been in love with most of my adult life. Sometime in the last two years I lost myself and became complacent. Which made my significant other fall out of love with me. I kept trying to have him give it another shot but you cant make someone be in love with you. I have no doubt that he loves me but the IN LOVE is gone.
I will be moving to Seattle Washington in the next month. I cant go back to Ohio because theres really nothing there for me. So once again I will not be lurking on the boards for quite sometime. Good luck all.

Dam Anna. I am so sorry. Always know that as one door closes another one opens.

Good luck on your journey!

Good luck in your journeys I think you might like Seattle...my sister's lived up there for about the last ten years or so...

Sorry to hear. Things will get better.

Prayer is the answer.

Sorry to hear, time will heal wounds.

Hey, maybe you and Stephan can be roomies?

Be careful, I hear its hard to sleep there.

I don't get it, Anna. Just because you become "complacient" in the relationship shouldn't be a reason for the "love of your life" to just fall out of love. The problem "isn't" you, it's him.

Don't pull stakes just because of him. Do it only for you. After all if your single, then it's only "you" and your family that now matters.

Last piece of advice and you certianly don't have to take it. This isn't the first time. Don't take him back........Nada..

YARDofSTUF wrote:Be careful, I hear its hard to sleep there.

Just the houses that are close to the freeways and the rail systems....

downhill wrote:Just the houses that are close to the freeways and the rail systems....

Is that what the movie was about?

YARDofSTUF wrote:Is that what the movie was about?

Beats me. That looked like a chick flick. ....I do have the CD though. There was some good music on it.

downhill wrote:Beats me. That looked like a chick flick. ....I do have the CD though. There was some good music on it.

Yeah, you're a closet Harry Connick Jr fan, aren't you...

LOL....No but the CD did have Screaming Trees.....that was pretty cool. Some other stuff on there too.

Annalysa wrote:I have been in a relationship with the person I have been in love with most of my adult life. Sometime in the last two years I lost myself and became complacent. Which made my significant other fall out of love with me. I kept trying to have him give it another shot but you cant make someone be in love with you. I have no doubt that he loves me but the IN LOVE is gone.
I will be moving to Seattle Washington in the next month. I cant go back to Ohio because theres really nothing there for me. So once again I will not be lurking on the boards for quite sometime. Good luck all.

Welcome to Washington, at least. Perhaps we can meet up sometime - I've wondered what you were like in person for a while now. And Seattle is cool, full of things to do and places to be.

Sorry to hear about your personal situation. If you're coming to Seattle for yourself, you'll love it. There's a TON of cool stuff to do and see living around Puget Sound.

The one downside is the weather. It can be gray and dreary for some long stretches, though when it's nice it makes up for it. Also, real estate in the city is pricey. Otherwise, there's excellent mountain biking, hiking, camping, scuba diving, a great music scene, good restaurants, and more.

I've had offers to move a few other places, but it's hard to leave.

Annalysa wrote:I have been in a relationship with the person I have been in love with most of my adult life. Sometime in the last two years I lost myself and became complacent. Which made my significant other fall out of love with me. I kept trying to have him give it another shot but you cant make someone be in love with you. I have no doubt that he loves me but the IN LOVE is gone.
I will be moving to Seattle Washington in the next month. I cant go back to Ohio because theres really nothing there for me. So once again I will not be lurking on the boards for quite sometime. Good luck all.

you will find your way


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downhill wrote:I don't get it, Anna. Just because you become "complacient" in the relationship shouldn't be a reason for the "love of your life" to just fall out of love. The problem "isn't" you, it's him.

Don't pull stakes just because of him. Do it only for you. After all if your single, then it's only "you" and your family that now matters.

Last piece of advice and you certianly don't have to take it. This isn't the first time. Don't take him back........Nada..

Anna, I agree with DH. He has a good point. Do it for you. You'll be much happier too. Please keep in touch with us and let us know how you are doing.

Oh i dont think I will ever leave speedguide. I am normally lurking somewhere. Just kinda feel like a lost soul right now. I am so dreading packing and then driving 7 hours to wait at home till I have money to head out. However the wait shouldnt be to long I am thinking a week or so.

My current roommate has promised to make sure he got me out there and helped till I get a job. I trust himl, we have gone through way to much together for him to leave me hanging and he wants me to find myself again.

I just dont know really about anything at this point. I sent out some resumes yesterday and have already gotten phone calls for jobs. I have a nice place to live by some park and the waterfront. I have a dear wise friend who I am staying with the rents expensive but I will get by.

As for not taking him back if the situation arises I cant say no in some weird way I think we both know its right. I just have to grow up alot and not be so fricking controlling. I learned recently that I am from a group of controlling women and apparently I am the Queen.

I am thinking conseling and the good old Seattle engery is going to be good for me. I hope it at least eases the pain. The pain in this is so unreal. I have had other relationships end and it sucked for a minute but then I realized its ok I can find someone else in what two days. I dont want anyone else I never have. We promised to remain friends and be there for each other. I know that will happen.

And Paft sure I would love to meet you I always found you an interesting fellow. I kinda think you will be on the other side of the sound but I am not sure. I apperantly staying by belivider park or something.

Wow Anna....you certainly have a plate full!! One incident alone would be hard enough to work on, let alone the two you are looking at. I am sorry for you pain.

Washington however, is a beautiful state. It would be on my list for relocation should that ever occur, but as had been already stated...go for YOU...not for HIM...or it will fail on you. I sincerely wish you the best of luck...and you KNOW we are here for ya!

When you say go for you. I dont see any alternatives. I have to go I cant live like this. None of this is for me its just the best solution I can find for a crappy situation that I dont think I personally have had the time to fix. So we seperate and he can go on living his life. I have to live mine. Theres to many things I havent accomplished yet. I holding on to what little hope I have left and it keeps getting smaller and smaller. I am so scared of everything. I have no idea what the future holds and why this road is closing and where the next one will go.

Annalysa wrote:When you say go for you. I dont see any alternatives. I have to go I cant live like this. None of this is for me its just the best solution I can find for a crappy situation that I dont think I personally have had the time to fix. So we seperate and he can go on living his life. I have to live mine. Theres to many things I havent accomplished yet. I holding on to what little hope I have left and it keeps getting smaller and smaller. I am so scared of everything. I have no idea what the future holds and why this road is closing and where the next one will go.

Anna: Know that it is not just for you to fix. It takes two to tango hon. He has to work with it just as you do. If you are putting the "ability for the relationship to last" on you and you alone, it is destined to failure. Both partners have to always work at the relationship, even after it has been established, it still requires work on both parties.

Thats why I have to go. Exactly why I have to go. Hes not capable of working on it now. Hes emotional spent. You can see it in his eyes that its killing him.

Annalysa wrote:And Paft sure I would love to meet you I always found you an interesting fellow. I kinda think you will be on the other side of the sound but I am not sure. I apperantly staying by belivider park or something.

Yeah, I'm over in Bremerton. It's an hour ferry ride across the sound, but it's not a huge pain for me to make the trip. And I think I know the area you'll be in - but that's not hard to figure out once you move in. Heck, might just be safer to meet up in Pioneer Square or something like that, at least neither of us will get lost. Hard to miss that area.

Besides. I've been jonsing to go to Seattle again for way too long now - been living here two years and been to Seattle all of what, eight times? :/

I think i can find that.

Good luck Anna! Nothing like a good move to help you start over.

Hello?

It's football season?

Underwear on the couch, no underwear, FOOTBALL!

Doggie style is a Canadian Invention, cause of Hockey!!!!

Annalysa wrote:I think i can find that.

*nods* If nothing else, I can get a map of Seattle to ya. Not a google maps thing, a tourist-y type map that hilights certain areas of interest.