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Issues with anger and if so i could use some tips on how to release it properly..
I will be happier than a peni.. in a whor.... house!
and the next minute im ready to exsplode this is a very serious issue and all feedback would be appreciated and honerd
thank you in advance4

i sleep it off...

punching bag?
play some quake 3?

effexor....

Originally posted by hatebreed88:
Issues with anger and if so i could use some tips on how to release it properly..
I will be happier than a peni.. in a whor.... house!
and the next minute im ready to exsplode this is a very serious issue and all feedback would be appreciated and honerd
thank you in advance4

Learn not to let things get to you. If they anger you, they own you. Put yourself above it. If you cannot, turn up the music and start screaming. Even better, is to put your anger in art. Write... Paint... Act...

Exercise like a fiend...

Whenever I'm pissed I go for a 3 hour walk in the redwoods with my pups.

By the time I'm done I'm too tired to be uptight. The emptions are still there but thev've been subconsciously put into perspective somehow.

Don't ask me, just try it...

I had that problem tonight. Me and my roomie got into a fight because I would not give him money for pills. He grabbed my neck and hit me a few times and I got up and looked him in the eye and then BLAMMO! His hands were at his side and I was seriously pissed off I took a step back and socked him right in the cheek close to his nose knocking him out for about 5 seconds. He hit the floor (this guy is bigger than me). I was scared that I seriously hurt him, but I was so pissed at the same time. He got up and hit me a few more times but they were girly hits, so they did not hurt. I was holding in my anger and he forced me to retaliate. You can see the cut in the side of his nose from my clas ring. I could not believe he went down like that. I could not believe I literally knocked him out (this was in anger and self defense) I scared myself and I feel bad even though I was defending myself. That was the worst I ever hurt anyone because of anger.

Kill some of your neighbors' Rose Bushes with Round-Up....it worked for me.

Hi hatedbreed88

one thing to not do, & that is drive. anger & automobliles do Not Mix well.

second thing, do Not Drink, booze & bad temper, is a sure way to trouble.

go for a walk, a long walk, shoot pool, go for a swim.

in other words, just get away from the source of your anger, if possible, and work of excess energy.

work out, do pushup's, whatever it takes to occupy your mind and work off the anger at the same

time.

i used to go to the movies. big box of popcorn & a coke, sit back and get lost in the story playing.

usually you get out after dark, so i would take the walk home, and breath the night air.

whatever works for you, as long as you stay away from phones, and the person involved, till calm

overtakes your anger. then get a good night's sleep, and tomorrow usually brings clearer

thought's, and a lot less emotion, allowing you to deal with the problem in a calm, quiet, and

rational manner.

take care

regards minir

[quote]nullHis hands were at his side and I was seriously pissed off I took a step back and socked him right in the cheek close to his nose knocking him out for about 5 seconds. He hit the floor (this guy is bigger than me). I was scared that I seriously hurt him, but I was so pissed at the same time. He got up and hit me a few more times but they were girly hits, so they did not hurt. [/QUOTE

You can not convince me that you were defending yourself. You say that you hit him when his hands were by his side, also that his punches were like 'girly hits'. If this is the case, then the only thing you were defending was a bruised ego. Why didn't you just leave the room? A similar incident happened to this guy last year, he's now in jail for, I think, manslaughter b/c after he punched him the guy fell on his head and died. Anyway, I would take the advice from other ppl here and just leave and walk off your anger.

regards,
drew

[ 03-16-2001: Message edited by: dreww71 ]

Ya gotta just chill man. I used to get real red faced, but it only leads to stupid decisions...stress?..exercise

[ 03-16-2001: Message edited by: sitosterol ]

I handle anger very well.. like too well
people just push me and push me.. I just take it and from time to time I explode..

u remember simpsons.. ned flanders? I'm like him.. okily dokily..

I take it all in and explode.. .works for mee..

Help me bare with it too I just called up a girl and asked her if she wanted to go out tomorrow...She just got her wisdom teeth removed and she is hurting pretty bad...anyways she said she wasn't sure i just punched a hole in my closet door and now all I want to do is beat my head against the monitor. I am soooo angry I am just really relaxed and trying to take everything easy. I think I need to go do somthing. I feel sick to my stomach too. I am really cold but sweating. I hate ****ing girls in a certain way they like to play you around keep you waiting lead you fuc_king on.

mikemean406 - and I thought my roomate was bad! you should move out, pronto. Your home should be a refuge, or sanctuary. somewhere where you feel good. If you don't have a place to just chill, then that will take a toll on your quality of life!

Hate - I'm surprised that noone has mentioned this: therapy. It's funny - everybody seems to think that therapists are for people with mental problems, that there is something wrong with you if you go to see one. I had that attitude, and recently started to see a therapist. Here is what it is like: I go see a really nice guy, who listens to me very attentively, and who gives me good advice. there is none of this "you must release your inner spirit" new age-ness, nor does he try to tell me that I have problems. Instead, he helps me understand why I feel the way that I do. That's the key thing: understanding and then fixing the cause of your anger.

All of these other suggestions - play pool, go for a walk - help with the symptom. That is, they make you feel better at the time taht you are angry. the best thing is to fix the cause, and the best way to do that is to talk out your feelings with someone who will listen. IF you have somebody in your life who will listen impartially, and who you are comfortable talking to, then great, talk to them. otherwise, condider renting a friend for a while - that is, hire a therapist. I bet you that it would help you out more than you can imagine. and there is nothing wrong with going to one!

Originally posted by Sox:
Kill some of your neighbors' Rose Bushes with Round-Up....it worked for me.

Use herbicides to solve your problems?
Your children thank you

good advise grundy.

I think my neighbors are dead. I never see them outside. There grass is never cut or anything. Maybe I should check on them cause no one else cares about them...they are about 90 i wonder if they would mind spotting me some cash too.

Originally posted by Immortal:
I handle anger very well.. like too well
people just push me and push me.. I just take it and from time to time I explode..

u remember simpsons.. ned flanders? I'm like him.. okily dokily..

I take it all in and explode.. .works for mee..

me too man, actually i exploded today, some friends u can never trust....

I hit the bench when I get really pissed. The day that I scared my GF so bad that she was actually scared to be with me, I knew that I had to do something.

Hatebreed-
tough issue.

You can't hold all that sh!t inside, but you
can't vent it out on the innocent as well.

lots of good responses/advice in this thread.

Be true to yourself and your feelings, find the root/source of your anger, and focus on that.

The important thing is not to bury your emotions or just hope they will go away.

So much sh!t about our society pisses me off that somedays it's hard for me to function, but I try to remember the people/things/moments in my life that i love, and that's what really gets me through.....

Anger needs release, how you do that determines the out come. Sometimes anger can be vented by writing what bothers you down,keep writing till it's out of your system. I know this works, I've kept a journal for the last 10 years, Alot of things in there that I would never want any one to read, but it helped me over some rough spots. Plus you know what needs to be done, now do it and relax. Love ya

ty all very much!!

i agree with evil and minir. i think you know what to do also hatebreed. your a smart guy and i know you'll do the right thing!

Humboldt,I have no children.The herbicide incident I am referring to involves my extremely bitter neighbor who has nothing better to do than scream at the neighborhood children.
He decided that my circular saw was too loud(I was doing work at 4 pm on a Wednesday).After I chased him off,I told him,if he had a problem,call the friggin' cops.They laughed at him,almost as much as I did.
Better herbicides than hurting him.He is terrified of me and hasn't bothered me in two years.
I get a real kick out of leaving the garage door open when I clean my Beretta.He never bothers me anymore.

lol...I have honors classes in high school and I get pretty pissed off about some stuff but I just listen to angry music, and it helps me realize that my life isn't that screwed up...he he he Quake III works too!

Originally posted by Jesse 23:
punching bag?

I have it to be the best solution for myself, much better than ripping a closet dorr off its hinges, or punching through a wall, boxing can help alot!