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    Low self opinion -- low self esteme -- getting them back!

    Is there a way to actualy strengthen ones low self opinion and self esteme.?

    Or overcome those emotions?


    Seems to me the best way to strengthen them would be to build confidence, which in itself is an entirely different objective.

    Would shrinks be effective in this area?

    How would one go about repairing a damaged low self opinion/esteme etc...

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    Talk... the only way I find I could gain confidence is talk to close friends.. then they encourage me and we go do things toegehter... to build up me self esteem.. or confidence in that particular area..

    another thing is that.. try and do something u normally wouldn't do... something u don't think u'd be able to do.. keep challenging yerself

    lil challenges add up and u will build confidence... I used to have no self esteem... now at least I can stand on my own two feet..

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    Lets just say some pompous ass told ya you misspelled esteem in a thread title.....

    You lookem in the eye and tell em to go jump off a bridge.

    Also, keep in mind that the "ideal" is not often achieved. How many women do ya see running around with Barbie-esque dimensions? Not too many, thats for sure.

    See many dudes running around that have perfect hair and teeth and legs and nose....etc? You don't unless they are on that infernal boob tube. Making comparisons to PRODUCED ideals will only net you misery.

    What *I* think needs to aimed for is pleasing yourself, and those you love. Above all, be true to yourself, its much easier that way.
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    I used of/still do have a low self esteem. Specially in school, I used to get picked on alot, and me being shy and all, i'm no ladies man, lol, which doesn't help.

    I think if you have confidence, you automatically gain more self-esteem/self opinion.

    But then confidence is a varying thing. Like how all of us at SG have confidence with computers in how they work....I have no confidence whatsoever when it comes to ladies, therefore, when I am faced with a challenging thing like talking to a girl, lol, I feel bad since I don't know what to say, and then I have less self esteem.

    but then during a scenario of who can beer bong the most beers, I have confidence in that, which improves my self esteem (W00t, i'm the bomb! 8 beers in a row!) j/k

    the way I rationalize it, is I feel good about myself no matter what. Like, i'm my own person, I choose to do the things I do. So if I choose todo good things, then I have no other reason other then to feel good about myself as a person, which means I have high self esteem/opinion.

    And if you are feeling bad about yourself, you have to ask yourself why are you feeling this way?
    hopefully you have the answer.

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    Originally posted by Immortal
    Talk... the only way I find I could gain confidence is talk to close friends.. then they encourage me and we go do things toegehter... to build up me self esteem.. or confidence in that particular area..

    another thing is that.. try and do something u normally wouldn't do... something u don't think u'd be able to do.. keep challenging yerself

    lil challenges add up and u will build confidence... I used to have no self esteem... now at least I can stand on my own two feet..
    as of late, my talking is what has been getting me in trouble... I seem to have lost a "regulator" of some sort that allows me to be tactful in my approach to a situation.

    All my friends, outside of SG, are pretty much co-workers and they are the gang banging type of peeps so they really have nothing constructive to say... which bothers me and always reminds of of that saying... "it's hard to soar with Eagles when your flying with turkeys" (or something like that) which I tend to look at as a dampening effect on my brilliant presence ..lol

    As far as taking on challenges.. I rarely have any free time. I may be on SG but my purpose here at home is to be attentive to the kids... little boogers... so I can surf and tend to their needs...

    I want to challenge myself and I was thinking about taking some Ju-Jitsu classes.. I know that will help some.

    Thanks for talking wit me ya... I love you ..lol
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    Originally posted by brembo
    Lets just say some pompous ass told ya you misspelled esteem in a thread title.....

    You lookem in the eye and tell em to go jump off a bridge.

    Also, keep in mind that the "ideal" is not often achieved. How many women do ya see running around with Barbie-esque dimensions? Not too many, thats for sure.

    See many dudes running around that have perfect hair and teeth and legs and nose....etc? You don't unless they are on that infernal boob tube. Making comparisons to PRODUCED ideals will only net you misery.

    What *I* think needs to aimed for is pleasing yourself, and those you love. Above all, be true to yourself, its much easier that way.

    Yah I really don't compair myself to others... I know if I want the perfect body etc I need to do ALOT of work.. so I have come to an understanding with myself on that feild...



    I have just recently been able to accept me for me... that's the hardest part I beleive. Ya see, I clowded my head with crap for so long that being f-ed up was normal now all of a sudden what was normal is lost and I have to adapt to a new way of life... this may seem odd to alot of people but this is relevent to my situation regardless.

    I have been getting moods of invinsibility, almost Wicked or Evil, nothing can get in my way or stop me... ya know? I feel "me" changing and it's all new to me... weird, very hard to explain.
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    Originally posted by drdoug99
    I used of/still do have a low self esteem. Specially in school, I used to get picked on alot, and me being shy and all, i'm no ladies man, lol, which doesn't help.

    I think if you have confidence, you automatically gain more self-esteem/self opinion.

    But then confidence is a varying thing. Like how all of us at SG have confidence with computers in how they work....I have no confidence whatsoever when it comes to ladies, therefore, when I am faced with a challenging thing like talking to a girl, lol, I feel bad since I don't know what to say, and then I have less self esteem.

    but then during a scenario of who can beer bong the most beers, I have confidence in that, which improves my self esteem (W00t, i'm the bomb! 8 beers in a row!) j/k

    the way I rationalize it, is I feel good about myself no matter what. Like, i'm my own person, I choose to do the things I do. So if I choose todo good things, then I have no other reason other then to feel good about myself as a person, which means I have high self esteem/opinion.

    And if you are feeling bad about yourself, you have to ask yourself why are you feeling this way?
    hopefully you have the answer.

    That's some good advice bro... I couldn't agree more.

    My problem is I tend to question everything that I do... almost as if I fear judment by others.... but then I always say " I don't give a f** what they think" blah blah... It's a constant battle of ups and downs....

    I can almost pin point the exact time when I started having problems in this area.. I was at a PCP party and after smoking the sherm stick I litteraly felt instatly stupid.... I knew I should have slept in late that day...lol
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    There is no "one person is better than another" That is only true based on circumstance. A genius for survival in the Kalahari is an idiot at Cambridge. You may very well have become a fish out of water. Do not allow that to encroach on your sense of self worth. Do not measure yourself by someone else's yardstick. Be you.... and take Viagra...

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    Brembo... I just spilled my guts, sent the message and got this..
    This user's mailbox is currently full, and cannot be sent any messages until it is cleaned out. An email has been sent notifying the user of this. Please try your request at a later time..
    pressed the back button and my entire message was gone..... man I took a long time to type that!......lol

    clear PM please
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    Doh!

    I thought I had em clear....but noooo, the sent items were packed. Sorry man.
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    Originally posted by brembo
    Doh!

    I thought I had em clear....but noooo, the sent items were packed. Sorry man.
    It's all good brother from another mutha!...

    Got to wrap some presents, I'll pm ya later if possible..
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    Originally posted by Deus ex Machina
    There is no "one person is better than another" That is only true based on circumstance.
    Like the special olympics right? Sporting events etc?

    A genius for survival in the Kalahari is an idiot at Cambridge.
    basicaly what environment you lived around dictates or helps form "you/me"?


    You may very well have become a fish out of water. Do not allow that to encroach on your sense of self worth. Do not measure yourself by someone else's yardstick. Be you.... and take Viagra...
    Great advice... When the grass is greener on the other sides it's time to water my own.. I understand


    Thanks ..
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    Originally posted by EvilAngel
    I want to challenge myself and I was thinking about taking some Ju-Jitsu classes.. I know that will help some.
    Funny you should mention martial arts. As I started reading this thread that was going to be my recommendation.

    Karate and Kung-Fu worked wonders for my confidence, and my self esteem.

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    Originally posted by EvilAngel
    Like the special olympics right? Sporting events etc?
    Does the end result of a competition improve a person or is it effort to enhance onesself before the event.
    That aside, it is not fair to assess on but a few parameters. I know a few guys in the SCA (Society for Creative Anachronisms). They are those Rennaisance geeks who wear armor and bash each other insensate with rattan weapons. These men are big, however they also need two non-combative skills to maintain membership. I remember this one gent. He was 6'4" and weighed 250#. A scary fighter, who also made some of the most delicate and beautiful lace. Judge him based on these skills and you would have a paradoxic blend. How do you think he would fare in your work place? Hint, do not pick on his lace.



    basicaly what environment you lived around dictates or helps form "you/me"?


    However your environment is not solely your job. You are a function of several environments, and you may find the personal result leaves you uncomfortable in some of them.

    Great advice... When the grass is greener on the other sides it's time to water my own.. I understand
    Or appreciate the beauty of a brown lawn. If it bothers you fix it. If you choose not, then it was not important enough for you to take action. So do not feel bad about it.

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    Originally posted by Norm
    Funny you should mention martial arts. As I started reading this thread that was going to be my recommendation.

    Karate and Kung-Fu worked wonders for my confidence, and my self esteem.
    Really? What Kung Fu forms did you study?
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    Originally posted by Deus ex Machina

    Or appreciate the beauty of a brown lawn. If it bothers you fix it. If you choose not, then it was not important enough for you to take action. So do not feel bad about it.
    Yeah, now thats how to be. I had a horrid lawn, cuz I didn't really care. Until my neighbors started bitchin and moaning. I do care about them being upset, so I hired a guy to keep it up...problem solved.

    I did some doughnuts in the front yard with my car the other day, and Lawnboy(its what he goes by...lol) sure got mad at me.
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    Originally posted by brembo
    Yeah, now thats how to be. I had a horrid lawn, cuz I didn't really care. Until my neighbors started bitchin and moaning. I do care about them being upset, so I hired a guy to keep it up...problem solved.

    I did some doughnuts in the front yard with my car the other day, and Lawnboy(its what he goes by...lol) sure got mad at me.
    Did you drink paint?
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