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    Need some prayers for my grandmother

    Grandma who is 89 years old and is a fighter...who has had several strokes and heart attacks in her life, but always comes back stronger...

    anyway this past monday she had a major stroke, worst she ever had. At first she could not speak nor move any part of her body except her left arm. Now she can move a bit more and is somewhat responsive.

    She can talk but it not words you can understand, but you know she is trying her hardest.

    The biggest problem is she cannot swallow so she cannot eat without a feeding tube. Her living will says she does not want a tube if there is no hope at all.

    But she is concious and we know she is very aware, we say goodbye and she waves, or say our name and tries to say it.

    Long story short doctors are arguing they want pull the feeding tube, family says give it a few more days. I definitely dont want her to suffer, I just wish it was quick, I really do not understand why G-d allows her to suffer. I do not want her to starve to death it is not like she is unconcisous and cant feel what is going on.

    But this morning i got bad news that she is now bleeding internally, i dont know anymore details. I am at work now but cannot get to the hospital at the moment. I do not have my car. I am trying to work out the details. I am hoping to be able to get there tonight and see her one last time.

    The real odd thing is, she is in the same exact hospital room that my grandfather was in when he passed 6 years ago, and this is a huge hospital.

    So I am praying that whatever G-d has for her, that she does not allow her to suffer too much. Seeing her in the bed like that unable to do anything is horrendous.

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    My thoughts will be with you and your family...

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    I hope she makes a full recovery Augustus. I know what it's like when a grandmother has medical issues such as that, as i just went through it twice. It lets you know how fragile life really is. Hang in there Augustus.

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    I'm sorry for your troubles. I hope God blesses your Grandmother especially now.

    Why the rush to pull the feeding tube? Stroke victims have been known to continue to improve for months. I can't understand the internal bleeding but it is not, in itself, a reason to pull the feeding tube either. If it is her age, we shouldn't put limits on when someone is given hope to survive a trauma and when they are not.

    If your grandmother is trying to communicate with you, she is in no condition to be deprived of survival assistance. Only God knows what she will be doing in six weeks.

    My prayers are with you and your family, but especially with your Grandmother.

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    Thanks Minir and Sarahnn,

    Sarahnn,

    I really dont understand it myself. I understand she is 89 and we dont live forever that is part of life. The doctors are saying they have to do what is in the living will by law or something of that nature, and they are saying there is no chance of recovery, even she is communicating in her own manner. In fact she opened her eyes a few times yesterday and the other day she said to my daughter what sounded like "i love you"


    I can see if she was tootally in a coma, and no hope whatsoever and pulling the feeding tube she probably would not suffer, but to me this is different then that.

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    The most oddest thing is I was just discussing with my grandmother a week ago how I have rediscovered my Jewish heritage and been going back to shul and she was so happy to hear it and proud, and then this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Augustus
    Thanks Minir and Sarahnn,

    Sarahnn,

    I really dont understand it myself. I understand she is 89 and we dont live forever that is part of life. The doctors are saying they have to do what is in the living will by law or something of that nature, and they are saying there is no chance of recovery, even she is communicating in her own manner. In fact she opened her eyes a few times yesterday and the other day she said to my daughter what sounded like "i love you"
    You simply need to establish that she must be given time to decline to demonstrate that the doctors are correct in thier prognosis. Stroke victims can improve but not overnight. I think seeking a specialist in this area might help to assess the efficacy of this hasty prognosis.

    I can see if she was tootally in a coma, and no hope whatsoever and pulling the feeding tube she probably would not suffer, but to me this is different then that.
    If your Grandmother is leaving it up to the doctors to determine her prognosis, simply get more expert opinions. Also, do some research on stroke survival and the time involved for maximum repair.

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    You owe me no thanks. We all have beloved family members and will all probably walk in your shoes eventually.

    The most oddest thing is I was just discussing with my grandmother a week ago how I have rediscovered my Jewish heritage and been going back to shul and she was so happy to hear it and proud, and then this.
    "This" is life. I'm thrilled that you were able to share your new committment before her present troubles.

    Hang in there..evertything will eventually fall into place as time progresses.

    My heart goes out to you.

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    Thoughts and prayers Augustus.

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    Prayers sent!!!!

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    Prayers currently on the way Augustus that she can pull through this and make a full recovery.

    Now, you can't look at this as God trying to punish your grandmother or making her suffer. She is obviously a strong woman and that could be the reason why he has chosen her (IMO God has a reason for everything, I'm not trying to turn this into a religious debat).

    As for taking her off the feeding tube. It's also my opinion that people don't want those because they don't want to be a living vegetable. But since she is fully aware of whats going on, I think they should leave it in because if they take it out, she could starve. Basically, when she wrote her will, I don't think she was thinking she would be coherent when they pulled the tube, and I'd explain that to the doctors as well.
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    I'm sorry to hear that man. I will keep her and your family in my prayers.

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    Prayers on the way my friend. If it is her turn, and we never know for sure...may her journey be peaceful and as painless as possible..and Gods strength to you and the rest of your family. Angel Blessings! Stay close. Grandma's are such special Angels all on their own.
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    I will say a prayer for her myself. God bless you and your family at this difficult time.

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    Thanks everyone for well wishes and prayers really appreciate

    Here update got to hsopital around 4 I think..and by then they already pulled the feeding tube out, they said becuase of internal bleeding it wasnt helping...truthfully none of it makes any sense to me.

    Today she is much worst and is not responding to anybody or anything at all..and her breathing is very labored, she on a rebreather with 100% oxygen. I cant say if she knows what is going on like if she hears us I really dont know. We keep talking to her and holding her hand.

    Basically doctors are saying there is no hope at all and that why pulled the tube out but said if changes tehy can put it in..well that makes no sense to me..she certainly wont get better without any food.

    They started her on a drip on morphine and doctor says she should be comfortable but who relaly knows with her breathing.

    All i know is I hope it is quick her passing i cannot stand to see her suffering like she is.

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